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Originally Posted by pinkhaireddreamboy

....so currently I'm pretty confused and have decided just not to do it until I meet someone who's really hot and into me. Ha, j/k ...................My standards are way too high and every guy that I like is way out of my league ;

Originally Posted by xivorymoonx

And I feel the same way =P Sometimes it feels like I'll never have sex because I am picky

Originally Posted by Kikiloveyou

...then I remembered I lost mine at 15 >_>;;;
(almost 16 though, a few weeks before I think)
to my current boyfriend who I'm actually very much in love with.
At the time I just felt it was right~
and I trust him more than anyone in the world,
plus I know what kind of person he is,
unlike some of the flakey guys I've had as boyfriends
(who I can honestly say I didn't feel much for).

If you look at the pattern above, you'll see that women just do not or 'can not' have sex randomly with guys. They need to feel loved or in love or that the man they have sex with is the one.... This is a scientific fact, and it has nothing to do with culture.. women all over the world share this. In fact, I remember there's a thread that talked about this issue.

Guys on the other hand, can have sex like playing tennis, without emotion involved. Just a physical need. Sex and love are two very seperate things for guys. Guys would lie and cheat to any women if they think they can get sex. And women will have sex with guys who lie to them and makes them feel loved. But in the end, when a man have sex with a woman, usually the woman feels 'used' and the man feels 'guilty' for lying and cheating.. hahha..

Sex is and will always be the major dividing point for men and women. Neither would every understand the other because men can never feel how a woman feel and women can never feel how a man feel. Like you can never relate to a spider and thus you feel nothing when you step on them and squish them.

For those who wants to learn more about the female brain, read the book called 'The Female Brain'.... I just read it and it's revealing so much about how the women's brain work and how it's different from a man's.

Originally Posted by pinkhaireddreamboy

Umm, this is embarressing to admit, but my boyfriend of about two years and me broke up a few months ago mainly because of this issue. He always wanted to do it and I was like..... no thanks.

This is exactly the difference between males/females. Males can only think of sex and think of sex all the time. Everything else pale in comparison, especially guys who are full of testosterone at age 16-26. This is a physical difference and for guys, it's painful not to have sex. And you'll see this story repeated a million times. Men pressuring women into having sex and women don't want it. Women can only have sex when they are in love or feel that there's a strong possibility of a long term relationship (with the exception of her cycle when her testosterone are at it's peak, usually one or two days a month, a few days before her ovulation, which is when she might go home with a stranger at a bar and have sex, then regret it the day after).

Originally Posted by Sweetkiwi

I think at the age of 18-20 is a better age to lose your virginity. It's scary to see how many young teenagers are becoming sexually active at such a young age. There are so many 14 year olds getting pregnant and stuff..and it's just sad to see.

Most of these pregnancies are from 'religious states' that forbids full sex-education. If children are provided proper education, they can be more responsible and more prepared when they do have sex. Trying to fight nature is futile. We can only prepare ourselves for the consequences. Using condoms plus the pills, you're very unlikely to be pregnant. And if you do, then there's the option of abortion (oooops... this is a dirty word for some, but an option for others and it probably deserve another thread for debates).

Originally Posted by trashy*pearls

I think you can lose it whenever you feel ready, really. But it is up to you. Don't be pressured into something you are uncomfortable with, be safe, use protection. You know the rules :P

I lost mine when I was 15 and have been having pretty regular sex since then. And I'm not diseased :P

Sex is wonderful, trust me. It's not as taboo as people want it to be.

Trashy*pearls,... kudos!! Your found heaven on Earth! And we only have ONE life and a short one too to live it to the fullest!

Originally Posted by Jequila

I'm waiting till I'm married. -is lame- xD
I just really like the thought of giving my husband something that no one else has ever had. Even though it will most likely be awkward for the first time ;p

I read a lot of Christian books that says the same thing, how women should keep their 'gems' for their 'husbands' as presents... I somehow am quite disgusted at how the chauvinistic christianity made women into 'sex-objects' whereby her virginity is kept as a prize....

But Jeguila, don't get me wrong. I have no issues with people who just want to maintain their virginity.. I am all for individual freedom... And I respect and love you for wanting whatever it is that you want... I am just a tad bit pissed off at the way religious cults like Christians and Muslims brainwashing people into making themselves 'objects'. In many muslim countries like pakistan, turkey, the middle east, and elsewhere, some parents would hunt down their daughters who lost their virginity and kills them. (honor killing). In some places, girls vagina are sewed up when they are kids to prevent them from ever having sex and many die from infections. Even in my own country, you have religious police that goes to hotels and elsewhere, busting into people's private rooms and arrest couples. At the same time they say they don't have enough budget to fight real crimes like 'burglaries'. sigh*