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Originally Posted by cool
I understand that from a woman's perspective where a woman feel that sex is love and vice versa (equating the both in a complex entanglement), and when a woman have sex, she feels extremely in love, or extremely emotional, and therein lies the real problem. Because we can only judge others based on how we ourselves feels. We see thru our own prism or colored glass. So, when a woman finds her husband/boyfriend having sex with another girl, she automatically thinks he does not love her anymore, and that is what hurts most. But in actuality, the reverse is true. The guy still loves his wife as much, he is just having 'sex'. Sex, and sex alone. NOthing more. And from a men's perspective, he doesn't understand why the woman makes so much hell out of such a simple thing.
Men get extremely jealous when their women cheat as well but for a whole different reason. They are logical beings and they know that women generally only have sex with a guy when she's in love and when his wife sleeps with another man, then he thinks that she's in love with that other guy, and in truth, that's probably true as well. Usually a woman cheats when she's not getting the emotional support she needs at home. So in fact, when a woman cheats, she truly cheat wholely. But when a man cheat, it's only a physical thing. Nothing more.
Again, not trying to justify anything so please dont' shoot the messenger.
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yeah, that's true. most women cheat because things arn't going well at home. men do it for just the sex.. but most of the time, like you said, don't think more over it. they just had sex.
to me.. in both ways it's not 100% right.
and that a guy cheated on halle berry... is sooooooo uhh... nuts?
hahahah, don't worry! won't kill you. it's actually great to hear things too from a guy's perspective! to get to know more and all. and it's also different than to talk about this subject with only girls. since we mostly agree with each other. XD
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Originally Posted by cool
Actually, girls and boys are in general having sex at an older and older age compare to the past. It's because we are brought up in today's society where when we see a few 13 year old having sex, we generalize things and say that ppl are getting younger and younger.
If you just go back 100 years (or go to many 3rd world countries today), ppl have sex and become moms at 13 or less... it's the norm then...
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true, the norm of having sex got higher and higher trough the years. in 3rd worlds havind sex on very young ages is normal. for omst of us.. we find it digusting and all.... like a 9 year old havind sex and got pregnant. it was world wide news. yet there.. it's so normal and they don't understand where the fuzz is all about.
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Originally Posted by cool
You are missing my point. There are no such things as 'sex addicts'. It's like there's no such things as perverts when we refer to gay for instance. We are who we are, and in today's society, we paint all men as 'sex addicts, perverts, idiots who thinks only with their prick, pedophile, etc, etc'. The drug companies were successful in painting all hyper active kids as a decease and that they need to be tranquilized.. so, American moms are drugging their 'normally active kids',... over active kids means they are more intelligent, their mind are brighter and they want to explore more.. we are retarding them today.
But I guess you can make an argument that some people are so engrossed with thoughts of sex so much that they preclude many other things in their life, that you can say they are addicted to sex like we are all probably addicted to sugar. But the 'label' of sex addict can really be used on most men and a handful of women.
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it's also true that we put a lable on everything to give them drugs.. but you do have people that got so addicted to sex.. that they can harldy think or do normal. I once saw a documantry about it. they were following a man and WOMAN to see how they handle things in their lifes. but the question that they asked their too.. when will you give that lable to somebody?
a normal teenage boy will have so many hormones running trough his body that he can harldy think about other things. it's totally 100% normal.
do you call them a sex addict? or a guy of his mid 40th... who can't stop thinking and having sex? maybe we all put the lable on people waaaay to fast.
it's also a easy way for them and for us to make a excuse for some behavoirs.
like with ADHD. just call a kid that's hyper active an ADHD kid and drug it!
it's just getting way to easy... to not look further why somebody is like that or why that kid is hyper active ( I got mega hyper because of red food colours not adhd). people just get lazy. but that's a diff. topic ^__^
but I totally got your point. don't worry. I might not agree with everything but the most you are saying is true!