I don't think there is a perfect age to lose your virginity- there are people of all ages who are not mature enough to be having sex! But that can't be helped.
I just don't think it's ever a good idea to wait until AFTER marriage. Not if you want sex to be a positive and fulfilling experience. Or maybe that's just because sex is VERY important to me.
Sex is something that shouldn't be feared but respected. It's a shame when society trains us to think of it as taboo.
If you don't know what it's like to be with someone sexually it will be a lot more nerve-wracking and put a lot more pressure on the whole scenario, forever affecting your enjoyment of sex (cause you're bound together by law!)
I think sex is best enjoyed when you are in love, and I could never marry someone whom I wasn't compatible with sexually.
btw- I think the keys to making a great sexual relationship are:
- reliable birth control (i myself use the pill AND condoms without fail, am thinking about the mirena implant)
- regular health checkups (for both you and your partner- NEVER DO WITHOUT!)
- be monogamous as possible (you can still be in a promiscuous monogamous relationship! lol)
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