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Originally Posted by chemi
When i get married [or rather make a commitment to be with someone for a long time because marriage is a sham  ] and Im like 40 years old and everythings going south Im not going to CARE or be offended if my partner wants to go and have sex with loads of 20 year olds,
if they can actually get into bed with one who am i to stop the guy i love from havin fun and a massive ego boost from sleeping with women who are gonna be alot more attractive than my saggy self?
it just doesnt make sense to me this whole jealousy thing...fair enough if they fall in love with someone else..then i'd be devestated but sex? |
Exactly my point. You can't beat nature... no matter how much 'false morals' you try to impose on society, if nature intend us to be something else, it'll find a way to get out..
That being said, as both men and women grow older and wiser to the ways of nature, we become more tolerant.... If you see who responded to this thread you'll realize that younger girls are more idealistic.. like 'I'll kill him and leave him instantly if he sleeps with another woman', but in actual fact, when women grow older they actually learn to keep an eye closed.. else the whole world would be divorced...
Also, on another point, why is 'sex' all important? I personally think it's shallow to equate sex with love. If you love someone and if all they did is have sex with someone else, then the whole love goes away? That's quite shallow.. But I can also understand from a woman's perspective that they feel deeply in love while having sex.. it's all those hormones working the brain..... men don't at all.... fundamental flaw in the design of men/women which is main cause of conflict in a monogamous marriage (which is man made)....
Are there monogamous mammals? Sure, about 5%.. Humans are both.. but a majority are not...
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obviously it would need a long set of rules and alot of trust but i would never be with somebody for a long time unless there was that trust.
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Agreed. I personally equate love with trust.. the more you trust someone the more love you have for him/her... and with time as well.. the more time you spend with each other and know each other, the more in love you would be. A small thing like 'sex' would not get in the way...
In Asia, the conventional wisdom is that:
Women: 'Keeps an eye closed when their husbands cheat on sex'
Men: 'Never bring home the dirt.. ie, don't have affairs that you bring home, have it outside. And never let your wife know (but women knows anyways cause men are kinda stupid at hiding things)'