I'd also like to add that from my experience (and I've read many accounts of people wanting advice), spouses cheat mainly because:
- they're not getting any/enough at home - Cheating is not the solution - one should speak with the spouse, and reach a compromise. But of course, the cheating spose will not investigate the cause of this event (maybe the woman is depressed/overworked, maybe the guy is at fault since he doesn't make the woman feel wanted) - too many men go home and expect to get sex like turning on a tap. Women need to be wooed.
- it's gotten stale - Too many married people don't keep that spark going, or make it something as turn-offiis as washing your teeth. Ugh.
The cheating spouse - instead of suggesting something to spice things up, takes it somewhere else.
- they are attracted to someone else - This is normal, you don't stop having attraction to other people, or even crushes when you get into a relationship.
Instead of bringing all that pent up energy home (that chick's so hot, I'm so turned on right now, honey.....) they turn it into an obsession and dwell upon it, while comparing the new chick with your wife (subjectively of course)
- the wife is older since the time she was a bride. OMG, she dared to age! What a disgrace! And even add a few pounds after carrying my spawn. Ewwww.
You can get rid of these by having a honest relationship. When you can talk with your spouse about anything. Too bad people don't cultivate that. You can get rid of the others by having high standards in a spouse. Too bad people don't do that either.
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