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Originally Posted by cool
the more you can live seperate from each other, and then also come together and enjoy each other's company without trying to control each other, the better the relationship would be and that'll be the type that lasts... a lot of young women make the mistake of trying to control their men, who they can see, etc.... suddenly the men feels like they are being tied down...
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yeah i see what you're saying. I don't try to control my bf though. I totally let him do what he wants and hang out with his friends and stuff and skate whenever he feels like it.
i do feel like i liked it better when i was the one to go out and film him instead of his friends, but i don't tell him that because i think it would be pointless to tell him something like that. I shouldn't even complain about it really. I'm okay with all that, i just posted what i felt inside that's all. I would never try to explain to him that feeling though because he would take it as me trying to tell him to stop hanging out with his friends and i would never ask something like that of him because i wouldn't want him to ask me to stop hanging out with my friends. I like having girl time every once in a while. And I guess boys need their manly time together as well lol :3
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Originally Posted by cool
so, when a woman cry, a man will consider it bloody damn serious and will not know what to do about it... he'll think that the world has ended... he can't deal with it, and he'll leave... and of course, when a woman cries, she just needs attention... needs some loving and some understanding and some listening..
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YES! soo true! I get that feeling whenever I cry in front of him that he thinks it's more serious than it is so i just tell him something like "its stupid why im crying but i just feel overwhelmed with emotion so just let me cry, you don't have to do anything i just want to cry, but im okay! dont worry ;___;" you know? hehe but i guess he still doesn't like it. although i dont cry very often anymore, maybe once every few months like every 5-6 months. or unless something sad or frustrating happens, then i'll cry from that..
I think me and my bf have good communication for the most part. Nothing we've done has ever really failed, but I think for some things, we could still work on a bit, but I know we can do it ^-^
I feel happier after i read your post, Cool. I understood what you meant about men vs women in the back of my head, but just reading it and thinking about it again just helped me clear my mind about relationships in general.
You seem to know a lot about women for a guy! If only all men understood XD
I think this is a good question for all men to ask their woman, "Do you want me to try and fix the problem, or do you just want me to listen?" lol