Dear _________,

[Nitsue-chan]

Dear BonBonBarbie,

Hope everything gets sorted out. It must be hard and confusing for you right now but don't worry about it. We're all here for you. Just like the chinese guy in the bus.

Dear little sister,

Please flush the toilet when you poop. It's not very nice going to the bathroom and the first thing you see is...that.

Love,
Me

[cool]

Originally Posted by BonBonBarbie

haha not only has he not turned up at my house, hes gone out skating with hsi friends!
shows how much he cares doesnt it.

His loss... If I had to choose between skating and spending some romantic time with a hot-chic like you.. Hmmm... dun have to think too long, i can tell ya.....

dear little chinese guy on the bus today,
thank you for giving me that tissue and saying nice things to make me feel better but no, i dont think i have the potential to be a model, i think you were just trying to get in there :P lol. but thanks you made me smile
love
heather xxx

Of course he wants 'in'... but he's prob honest about his opinion though.. if that pic of you say anything, it says 'model quality'...

[BonBonBarbie]

run away with me cool?
lol
arghh ive had this before.
an ex once ditched me and a free house for ''electronics club'' silly boyyyy.

arghh im so mad and upset
my eyes hurt from crying

[JunGaeHyuk]

LOL you guys!

Dear Ozzy [my dog],
please find Dorothy, Tin man and cowardly lion and travel to Oz and get a brain. I love you, but how do you be so dumb? You are still cute and I will cherish you always.

XOXO

~+JGH+ ((-_+)))

[Kavi]

Originally Posted by BonBonBarbie

haha not only has he not turned up at my house, hes gone out skating with hsi friends!
shows how much he cares doesnt it.

oh boy can i relate.. :/
As well as the romantic gesture thing.
My boyfriend doesn't even do anything romantic on special occassions anymore. We didn't do anything special on Valentine's Day. He skated for the most part, and then I spent the night at his house and watched a movie. That's it. I even asked him if we could go out to dinner (Olive Garden) and we didn't. He has no money basically ever, so he never buys me anything really. The first year and a half we were together, he was pretty romantic with just the way he acted, but I've never received flowers from him or anyone for that matter.. he better give me some sometime! >.< I think the sweetest thing he's ever done is write me a cute card for valentine's day 2 years ago. He spent a lot of time on it ripping up stickers and putting them on there in his own way, it was COVERED completely except for where he wrote. Oh, and he wrote me a poem one time. that was cute too
but besides that, he doesn't really do anything "romantic". I really wish he would sometimes, especially now because all he does is skate with his friends now. I feel bad and selfish for saying this because i can see that he's happy, but i liked it better when he didn't have a lot of friends at all.
I buy him boards ALL the time, i buy him skate shoes ALL the time because he needs at least one pair a month. I even used to take time to film him, but he has friends to do that for him now.

[I'm really sorry this is so long. Maybe it should be in the rant thread, but i think i'm almost done.... x.x]

about you thinking of breaking up with your boyfriend bonbon, i think they're right^ to think about your relationship as a whole. For me, my boyfriend can be really inconsiderate and he's made me cry a few times for reasons similar to the bus situation. He's made me feel abandoned at times before. I never make him feel that way, ever! So it feels very unfair to me. But to be without his love, he's my ambition. When we met, he made me want to be a better person. He's done so much for me without knowing it. And I think every relationship has their off times. Especially long term ones. I've been with him for 3 years now, but I still feel excited to see him. I'm not bored of him, and i don't think he's bored with me. We love each other more than anyone before, so I think as long as that still applies, we won't be breaking up anytime soon even though sometimes I cry.
Oh, and he HATES it when i cry, which makes me cry more. Like whenever I cry, he doesn't usually try to make me feel better anymore, he just wants to leave. THAT makes me think about ending it sometimes, but then after a day or two, i'll forget all about it because of all the other good things...
But if it's a Continuous thing like he makes you cry all the time and maybe for different reasons, then maybe he isn't good for you..
Just think about it long and hard before you make a decision, you might end up regretting it. Although like cool said, you're a super hottie and would be able to find someone else perhaps much better for you and in no time at all.. ^^;;;; but still!! <3

[Cailey]

dear cailey,
for someone who spent the day painting and making stencils and spraypainting, you sure pulled yourself together at the last minute when your friend called you up to hang out for her birthday. not only is your outfit cute, but your hair doesn't look like a poofy mess for once. try and look this good more often.
sincerely,
cailey

[BonBonBarbie]

Thanks Kavi
my idea is just to let him sweat it a bit. not answer any calls (not tht ive had any to answer) and not reply to anything if he sends it. then he'll realise how upset i am without me having to shout at him or anything, and will hopefully realise that things need to change.
i dont want to break up with him, i love him, im just sickof being so down
ahh well. we shall just have to see what happens.

[cool]

Originally Posted by Kavi

oh boy can i relate.. :/
As well as the romantic gesture thing.
My boyfriend doesn't even do anything romantic on special occassions anymore. We didn't do anything special on Valentine's Day.

You know kavi, most men don't have a romantic bone... haha.. well, they have one or two tiny ones... women's emotional brain centers are much more developed then mens.

This is a point of contention between the sexes... I guess in the end, just take men as we are... (ie, romantic-less).... a lot of women spend endless nights crying over just this one reason... you're better off getting yourself a gay-friend on the side to, or get some romance books or watch romantic shows to get your fill of romance...

This is not to excuse men, but just to point out that it may, in the end, be pointless in trying to change your 'men' and make them 'become more romantic'... men are made of stone... resistence is futile! Haha.. and if you try to force this on men, they'll generally think that you're trying to change them, and manipulate them... they will hate it....

Again, not to say that men don't enjoy romance, but they usually don't activate it... but they can do some major romantic gestures once a while... and surprise you...

all he does is skate with his friends now. I feel bad and selfish for saying this because i can see that he's happy, but i liked it better when he didn't have a lot of friends at all.
I buy him boards ALL the time, i buy him skate shoes ALL the time because he needs at least one pair a month. I even used to take time to film him, but he has friends to do that for him now.

I guess men needs to spend more time with their 'women'. But that being said, let your man do his things with his friends... when 2 ppl get together, the women tend to want to control every aspect of the men's life, and this would be a major change in the men's life... of course, in the woman's perspective, men are stupid and needs changing.. but in men's perspective, they are fine the way they are... women also needs to find women friends who can provide the type of activity that she enjoys that men don't... and vice versa...

the more you can live seperate from each other, and then also come together and enjoy each other's company without trying to control each other, the better the relationship would be and that'll be the type that lasts... a lot of young women make the mistake of trying to control their men, who they can see, etc.... suddenly the men feels like they are being tied down...

In general, what men enjoys and women enjoys are very distinct... like for example, most men would find shopping with their wives a 'hellish' experience... of course, this is not to say that there aren't any couples that enjoys the same things.. thsose are hard to come by...

about you thinking of breaking up with your boyfriend bonbon, i think they're right^ to think about your relationship as a whole. For me, my boyfriend can be really inconsiderate and he's made me cry a few times for reasons similar to the bus situation. He's made me feel abandoned at times before. I never make him feel that way, ever! So it feels very unfair to me. But to be without his love, he's my ambition. When we met, he made me want to be a better person. He's done so much for me without knowing it. And I think every relationship has their off times. Especially long term ones. I've been with him for 3 years now, but I still feel excited to see him. I'm not bored of him, and i don't think he's bored with me. We love each other more than anyone before, so I think as long as that still applies, we won't be breaking up anytime soon even though sometimes I cry.

This is really good advice. What you're really saying is that men are jerks to women at a lot of times without even realizing it, and they can be sweet too, also without realizing it... we are less conscious about the relationship than a woman is... so, take 'men' with a bit of salt... don't expect miracles... or, you'll eb disappointed...

Oh, and he HATES it when i cry, which makes me cry more. Like whenever I cry, he doesn't usually try to make me feel better anymore, he just wants to leave. THAT makes me think about ending it sometimes, but then after a day or two, i'll forget all about it because of all the other good things...

Ah, you have stumbled upon another major difference between men/women... women cries easily, almost about everything will can tear up their eyes... women, can turn on the tap at anytime, so to speak... men, both thru their upbringing and their genetic make up, don't cry... and when they do, it's probably bloody damn serious... so, when a woman cry, a man will consider it bloody damn serious and will not know what to do about it... he'll think that the world has ended... he can't deal with it, and he'll leave... and of course, when a woman cries, she just needs attention... needs some loving and some understanding and some listening.. and she'll be ok... but men just can't stand that type of emotions.. if a man is emotional, he wants to be alone.. so, he also leaves his woman alone...

Don't expect men to comfort you when you cry..... because if you do, you'll again, be futile in your quest... unless of course you buy a lot of books about relationship that educates men about women's 'crying' needs... heh!

I too get completely 100% uncomfortable when women cries and will run away as quickly as possible... my sisters cries all the time... even for small things... especially my younger sister.. her eyes will tear up even for simple arguments...

also, another thing to really consider is this... if you cry too often in front of your men, they'll think you're trying to manipulate them... and manipulating men is a big no-no.. if a guy thinks you're trying to get the better of them, they'll rebel... they'll do the exact opposite of what you want him to do... so, don't even try to manipulate a guy... just be honest with him...

If you want something from a guy, the following don't work:

1. Cry (may work once or twice, but it's like crying wolf, eventually he won't care and this will backfire)
2. Silent treatment (cause men will take this as you want time alone... he won't care, or if you do it a lot, he'll think you're impossible and can't deal with and will likely leave you).
3. Other kinds of manipulation and 'games playing', like giving face, or emotional hints etc... those will all bypass the guy...

To really get thru to a guy, the only way is direct communication. If you want some comfort, ask for it... say to him, 'I am feeling down because of this and this, and this is not your fault, but i feel like crying and don't panic, i just want you to hug me and comfort me and talk to me... that's all'... etc... if you feel bad about something, talk about it to him.. if you don't talk, if you try to play games, it'll only backfire..

Remember: If you don't tell a guy what's wrong, he will TRULY NEVER figure it out by himself. He's not a girl... girls can figure out what others are feeling because of their brain capacity for emotioans and reading them... men just physically can't do that...

Originally Posted by BonBonBarbie

Thanks Kavi
my idea is just to let him sweat it a bit. not answer any calls (not tht ive had any to answer) and not reply to anything if he sends it. then he'll realise how upset i am without me having to shout at him or anything, and will hopefully realise that things need to change.
i dont want to break up with him, i love him, im just sickof being so down
ahh well. we shall just have to see what happens.

BonBon... not answering his phone or other indirect means will not work... just sit down with him and tell him why he hurt you and how you have walked an hour and a half to meet him and he's throw cold water on your face.. tell him how that made you feel... he'll understand.. if he doens't then he's probably a jerk.. and ask him why he did that.. maybe there's a reason.. like he didn't want to see you then, or he had plans and you spoiled it, etc... who knows... remember, don't play games.. be honest...

I know it hurts.. and if it's another woman, she'll know how you feel, but since it's a guy, and guy are thick in the head, you need to be explicit..

In the end, like Kavi said eloquently, look at the relationship as a whole.. if he's not taking drugs, not cheating on you, not a bad guy but just lack romance, then you may want to chock it up to 'all guys are like that'... and give him his space.. when a woman gives his guy space to be with his guy friends.. he'll love her more for it.. Also, you need your romance as well, so in the end, you may have to initiate most of them... but maybe plan it with him first... heh!

[cool]

ps: BonBon, feel free to run away with me and fly to the other galaxies on my spaceship if all else fails... we'll find 'men-creatures' that are more emotional than females... !! hmmm... something to ponder!

[BonBonBarbie]

only if you wear your cape
lol
i sent him an email.
i know if i talk to him ill just cry and wont be able to explain why im upset lol. im such an emotional wreck :P lol

[Paliana]

Dear Friend-from-earlier,

I finally got a hold of you!! I'm so glad that you're doing ok~~! Now just waiting for your reply back, and hope we can hang out soon! ^^


Dear Ham & Turkey sandwich,

You were so delicious, I'm glad I made you! xD What could be better than having warm melty cheese with ham and turkey between two slices of bread? I know, talking to you is weird, but that's ok with me. =3



xoxo,
Paliana

[diadori]

dear city,

you smell bad. i wish to leave you. please stop complaining about the weather, it's never as bad as you think it is.

from,
me.

[Nitsue-chan]

Dear me,

Please be confident tomorrow and please don't get so nervous! Or else you'll mess up the whole thing. If your driving instructor wants you to take the exam is because she thinks you're ready. So c'mon, do your best tomorrow. You won't fail.


Dear driving instructor,

I BETTER BE READY!

D:

Love,
Moi

[Dutchie]

Dear Nitsue-chan,
good luck with your driving exam!!

x

Dear asiajammers,
I'm gonna miss you!!!

<3

[Nitsue-chan]

Dear Dutchie,

Thanks! Have a nice trip! ^-^

[yonanah]

oooh

Dear Ex-my person,
I wish you would grow up and stop being so childish! You're a twenty four year old man for gawd's sake. It didnt work out between us because the timing was off; you should be accepting of that and let it go.
Not only that working together with you since then has been hell because you have made it so. This could have worked out much better...
Sincurrly (mispelled on purpose),
Nana

Dear Gizmo,
Kitty I love you! But mom says I can't let you back in my room bc your bad news, bear. waaa! but I love you with all my hear and soul and butt.
with love love love,
Nana

Dear Friends,
You guys suck! none of you have called me up lately .
Sincerly,
Nana

[redpixie]

Dear Bon-Bon...

not you too! I swear somethings in the u.k air right now which is screwing up relationships all over the place! And hey, if you want, feel free to Pm me and we can rant and bitch about men together ^^ cus right now I feel like I can't bitch about it to any real friends seeing as this is like....the 5th or 6th time me and my boyf have split up? I don't wanna sound like a broken record so yea, I'm here for you and stuff =) you sound like me all over...actually...your whole relatioship sounds like mine O.o strange!

[mallorymaloney]

Dear Dee, Whose Site I Reviewed At PSGR ...

You asked for a review of your site, and you received one. If you don't wish to use my suggestions to improve your site, that's fine, but don't post a giant emo blog over it ... In reality, it is you who is butthurt, not me.

Love,
Mallory

[Nitsue-chan]

Dear Me,

You did it!! You passed the driving exam! WOO! : D I'm proud of you.

Dear mom,

I love you so much. ^-^

Love,
Me!

[BonBonBarbie]

dear nitsue chan,
congrats on your new driving abilities
hope you go on a nice road trip this summer
love
BonBon