What do you do when a guy says he likes you, but YOU don't like him. - Page 2

Eclipse_Z · #21 (**permalink**) 11-30-2008, 09:29 PM

aww, i hate it when this happens. i guess you gotta act a bit sensitive to avoid hurting his feelings..

urban.star.dust · #22 (**permalink**) 12-01-2008, 03:39 AM

OMG
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That is kind of happening to me right not, well sort of. He hasn't told me that he likes me, but if you were blind you could see that he did. I have kind of been wondering if he did, because well the way he acts with me kind of says it all. I mean, he hugs, lays on me (like on me so that I can't move AT ALL), etc.

What really kind of said it all was when we all threw someone a birthday party and well we had drinks and such and I was the mixer. I made him a drink (sure it was strong) and that night he decided "hey lets make out."

I was kind of a bit tipsy and kind of went with it lol. And yeah after I started to realize what was going on, I got up and moved and he left a bit later. The thing was, I KNOW he wasn't drunk and it definately wasn't a spur of the moment thing. He was still sober.

We haven't seen each other since that time (which wasl like a week ago) and yeah, that just got weird because i doubt he's avoiding me, but I most definately am lol

13th_hr · #23 (**permalink**) 12-01-2008, 12:12 PM

I tell them straight forward, that I don't like them that way.
I had a guy friend tell me he likes me but I just told him the truth. I like him as a friend and that's it.

I think its best to be honest with someone that took the courage to actually tell you to your face that they like you. they deserve that much.

catclaw · #24 (**permalink**) 12-02-2008, 01:45 AM

be honest and say you don't feel the same way.

suzushii · #25 (**permalink**) 12-09-2008, 08:03 AM

I just tell them I'm not interested, but I don't tell them I want to be friends with them, unless you know, I actually do. It's an insult to their intelligence - oh, let's be friends *but actually not gonna talk to you ever again and avoid you*. Yeah, not a good policy.

Even if I do want to maintain friendship.... Being friends with someone who is crushing on you - Awkward city! I mean, they can't help saying things or doing things that cross the friendship line, and they keep hoping. And a lot of friendly actions that you can make can be misinterpreted by them.

So yeah - honesty is the best answer. Don't be mean for mean's sake, but be firm, or they'll interpret it as hard-to-get.

Though most people don't come right out and say it, they most likely start by invading your personal space. Like actually standing closer to you, touching your arm while you're talking, or fixing you up (oh look at that, you have something on your face OR adjusting your hair) etc. They also become more interested in what you're saying, no matter if it's actually interesting. When I detect that, and I'm not interested, I start by talking about my boyfriend, or if I don't have one, I become cold/distant for a while so they 'get it' without losing face.

Most guys get it by little things like that, but some can be so freaking clueless, urgh.

hideki11 · #26 (**permalink**) 12-09-2008, 08:45 AM

Just tell him that you don't like him. It's better to be honest than to push yourself to lie.

Xiao Usagi · #27 (**permalink**) 12-21-2008, 06:57 PM

When that happens IRL.. they usually tell me and then they're so embarrased that they walk away or something without waiting for an answer xD I have time to say like "Oh *blush*" before they leave..^^''

On the internet i try to reply as nice as i can.. "I don't really know you and you don't know me. I don't think it would work, we live too far from each other. I can't handle a distant relationship right now blablabla.."
But if they get really trying I sometimes lose my temper :P

Haha it sounds like it happens to me all the time xD

zixin · #28 (**permalink**) 11-06-2009, 04:15 AM

I say "I am sorry but I only see you as a friend so I can't return the feelings you have for me."