Friends hooking up & cheating?

baabyviiet · #1 (**permalink**) 12-03-2008, 04:07 PM

heey everybody (: i'm back with another problem, cept this time... it's not mine xD it's actually my friend's & i have NO clue what i want to say to her about it... oh gosh >3<

she called me last night crying.. saying her boyfriend cheated on her o_o.
the thing, i know her boyfriend more then her, and i know where he was last night... and he was with my other best friend....

AH ! i know these girls are really bad friends and they keep trying to pull me in between... oh gosh..

so.. do i telll friend 1 where h was and what he was doing?..
or.. keep friend 2 in the current relationship with her "boyfriend"
AND WHAT DO I DO WITH THAT GUY!??!!? he called me to keep quiet, but i got two sobbing girlsss on my back >;[

catclaw · #2 (**permalink**) 12-03-2008, 04:55 PM

if the one friend knows her boyfriend cheated on her, she should break up with him. i hate when people stay with cheaters. you shouldn't feel obligated to tell her any details, but you should tell the boyfriend to fess up and stop being a coward about his actions. and your other friend you should maybe think twice about staying friends with, because she helped him cheat knowing full well he was dating someone, who's to say she wouldn't do something equally as shitty to you? imo she is a shit person, as bad as he is.

redpixie · #3 (**permalink**) 12-03-2008, 07:40 PM

Stay out of it. All 3 are being harsh on you by putting you in the middle. Refuse to be any part of it. This is for them to sort out, NOT YOU.

chiriyuku · #4 (**permalink**) 12-06-2008, 01:35 AM

I completely agree with catclaw. Although it would be ideal to stay out of it completely, if I was in the position you were in, I would treat the situations as completely separate.

Friend 1 is being cheated on. I would tell friend 1 that she deserves better and that it's time to move on. You don't need to tell her WHO her bf cheated with coz the fact still reminds that he cheated on her.

Friend 2... To be honest, if i had a friend like that i would lose respect for them. I know it's judgemental of me but I would tell friend 2 that what she did was wrong.

aileya sorasavong · #5 (**permalink**) 12-07-2008, 03:46 AM

yea I agree. it might be hard for you to 'betray' your friend like that but the one that got cheated on deserves to know nd seriouslly how could you be friends w/ someone who was w/ ur best friends bf ya know?

baabyviiet · #6 (**permalink**) 12-07-2008, 06:51 AM

ah ah ah !!! i tried stauing out of it, and TALKING TO THEM about it... not cool =/.. NOTHING HELPED?? they areyelling at me about me not telling each of them a long time ago. is it my problem..???

chiriyuku · #7 (**permalink**) 12-07-2008, 08:30 AM

I don't think it's your problem. You tried your best.. but try to see if from their point of view. They just found out some bad info so they're probably lashing out at you as well. Just let them be for a while and when they're ready to talk/make peace, let them approach you.

katzluva · #8 (**permalink**) 12-07-2008, 11:06 AM

Tell me about it. Knowing that your friend is cheating in their relationship is something I was once too familiar with. But it's their problem really, I dont think you need to act on anything. If your male friend wants you to keep quiet about it, then that's probably the best route to take. Go ahead and listen to their side of the stories. Whatever you do, DONT get involved...!

baabyviiet · #9 (**permalink**) 12-07-2008, 06:01 PM

wow guys.... some twist just happened, and i'm liek scared out fo my mind right now..

the girl won't talk to me AT ALL, and the guy..??...
turns out he kind of likes me.. which makes no sense, how many girls does this guy like? no offence, but man whooooore!

the girl knows too, she thinks im one of the girls who hooked up with them... this sucks.... ;[

whats me tuu doooos.

chiriyuku · #10 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 09:38 AM

wow... if she chooses to believe the guy that cheated on her over her best friend then stuff it. Seriously...

13th_hr · #11 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 12:17 PM

get out of there! id say ignore them. they shouldnt be treating you like this.
especially if your friend thinks that you are one of the girls her bf is cheating on.
and the guy is a jackass. you can make better friends.

baabyviiet · #12 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 07:29 PM

oh man guys oh man ! I'm so confused and stressed at the moment over somebody else's problem .__. ;; well we were all supposed to have a christmas dinner together, and they texted me BOTH yesterday telling me where and when ti is, so do i go? I know there's going to be tension at the table but they will kill me if i don't go.. D:
DO I OR DONT.?

iksuna3 · #13 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 10:41 PM

Go to the dinner but don't take part in their problems, and don't say anything about all this.