Ex Boyfriend Problem

tsaefen · #1 (**permalink**) 09-18-2009, 11:36 PM

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the_zorya · #2 (**permalink**) 09-19-2009, 12:47 AM

Just tell him that you're still not ready to see him/talk to him...even as a friend.

If he won't accept that and keeps trying to contact you, just keep ignoring him.

ViolentBeauty · #3 (**permalink**) 09-19-2009, 02:36 AM

Looks like he putting more wood into the fire. :\
If he's your "real friend" then he would support and respect your wishes. If he won't accept that then I think ya should be a little more aggressive to him and tell him to leave ya alone until ya thought this through. Or ignore his messages and go for a walk until ya think this through.

Sorry that I wasn't too helpful with this... D:

tsaefen · #4 (**permalink**) 09-19-2009, 05:05 AM

Ugh. Today he made SEVERAL screen names to try to talk to him. Angrily, I ended up telling him to leave me alone and end up blocking everything. Then I get a message going, "You know, I'm not going to give up on you."

That's when I realized I could block everyone that isn't on my buddy list...so I did and it stopped. At least for now. =-=

Wonderwall · #5 (**permalink**) 09-19-2009, 08:55 AM

He's selfish and becoming obsessive. Nip this in the butt before it gets worse (and it will).

You seem to be doing the right things.

redpixie · #6 (**permalink**) 09-19-2009, 07:29 PM

First off, you're being so strong and doing really well so kudos to that

but theres nothing else for you do to, but keep ignoring him, because telling him obviously isn't getting through. If you have to get angry at him as well then I wouldn't hesitate since calm doesn't work.

Also, if you're close to his family maybe talk to his mum and explain to her that you just wanna be left alone, and see if she can get him to see that?

laura-aap · #7 (**permalink**) 09-19-2009, 10:41 PM

First: Way the go for being so strict!!!

Second: you can always come here to rant! No mather what ^^

Third: He souds obsessive. And if you don't take any actions to him.. he will become a stalker!!! He allready calls you everyday, his whole world is about you and he ignorese your wishes.

I think the best things to do are:
- Tell him straight up that you need time.
- Tell him how you feel.
- Tell him that the more he pushes you into being friends.. the more you dislike that idea. The more he stalks the more you dislike him.
- Tell his family that this is getting out of hand and that HE was the one who broke up! Sometimes family can help.
- If that won't work ignoring is the best option and when he keeps on going and goes to far for you.. inform your family/friends/school.

Urrg, I hate guys that are soo pushy and ignore a girls wishes!

I really hope he will back off!
And please be aware! It sounds like he can be a stalker too....

tsaefen · #8 (**permalink**) 09-20-2009, 01:59 AM

Thanks guys

)))))

I'll keep you guys updated xP

chacha · #9 (**permalink**) 09-20-2009, 07:32 AM

If I were you I'd actually tell his girlfriend what he's doing.
Either she'll believe it or not, but at least you're being honest, and maybe then he'll see how serious you are about not wanting him to harass you.

tsaefen · #10 (**permalink**) 09-20-2009, 04:04 PM

so he found another way to attempt to contact me - he went on and made a msn account

wtf?

ANYWAYS so apparently he didnt get my text messages from before so i resent it saying (in short):

1. stop messaging me
2. i dont care to know about whats going on in his life
3. he should give it up

he texted back saying that what i sent him hurt and that he knows nothing will ever make it up to me & that he thought i could be maetre and stay friends with him 'cause we never had problems when we were together then he said that he will always be there for me byeee

yeup. i think thats the end of that.

=\ but bleh i hate knowing that i hurt him -0-"""" and that mature thing ticks me off but that's okay. at the same time i kinda want to go, "WELLLLLL IM ONLY 18 AND I CAN BEE IMATURE RIGHT NOW >:[[[[[[[[["

BuNnIeMomiJi · #11 (**permalink**) 09-20-2009, 04:56 PM

WTH you're not mature? He's not mature. He was the one who broke up with you to be with another girl, and now want you back. He's the one who kept contacting you when you told him you need time alone. He's the one who's hurting you more.

Girl, please keep your head high. The guy just wants you as a rebound.
Don't reply to his last text, but if you do, tell him he's the immature one for not giving space&time to be alone and get over the break up, AND he's the one who hurt you first by breaking up and getting with another girl while you were away.

Good luck =)

tsaefen · #12 (**permalink**) 09-20-2009, 05:50 PM

Yeah, I'm just not replying.

But on the bright side, I'm going to go shopping this week to let some frustration out

(I just have to make sure I don't get into debt) ANYWAYSSS expect an update some time this week in the "Shopping Diary" section :P

laura-aap · #13 (**permalink**) 09-20-2009, 06:47 PM

hahahahaha! He's funny!!!
He almost stalks you and tehn you are the inmature one??? XD

He's kinda pathetic!

It hurts having to hurt him.. but he hurted you first and when you asked for a little bit of time he kept pushing and pushing. You finally got some peace and time for yourself! Sometimes you have to hurt somebody to make them realize what they are doing.

Enjoy shopping!!!!

the_zorya · #14 (**permalink**) 09-20-2009, 07:23 PM

I think you did the right thing--even if he did say you hurt him.

Besides, he could've just said that you "hurt him" or called you immature to see if you'd text him back saying you're sorry or something, you know?

katzluva · #15 (**permalink**) 09-20-2009, 08:00 PM

Woot for being so strong! Don't think you even need advice from us since you're already handling it well heh heh. Only way to get rid of a desperate ex is to make it clear that you and him have no chance. Good luck!