Cheating?????

AniC. · #1 (**permalink**) 09-22-2009, 11:46 PM

Okay so today this girl in my math class gave me this note to ask for the answer to a question on a test we were taking at THAT moment.
I don't cheat,just don't like it,I feel EXTREMELY guilty,like if I'm deceiving everyone.

I didn't really help her but it still was VERY uncomfortable.
That is girl is very nice to me so I can't confront her and be rude.
But she's already done this TONS of times before to me. And I HATE "helping" her on tests. She's not trying in school and I know that she isn't stupid. I wish she'd realize just how important school is.

Plus, last year she went as far as to ask to cheat off of me on a regents exam!!!

It was horrible.

So now, what do you think I should do? I never want to have to deal with this again, but I know that if I don't take care of this,she'll continue to ask me for "help".

Thanks in advance everyone!!

catclaw · #2 (**permalink**) 09-23-2009, 12:14 AM

well if you want it to stop you'll have to be firm. tell her no. change seats. do something, obviously ignoring her is not getting the hint across.

AniC. · #3 (**permalink**) 09-23-2009, 12:16 AM

^Thank you!! Yes I think I'll just have to have courage and take care of this. It IS a problem,even if she is nice.

WongGeGe · #4 (**permalink**) 09-23-2009, 12:17 AM

There are 2 approaches to this, but as a guy, i don't know if a girl would get the same response.

1. say "**** no, i studied my *** off to do good on this"

2. "you better give me something in return."

as you get older and go to college, you realize that cheating is not something you should kill yourself (or someone over) because most of the stuff you learn you will not use in life....unless it is, then i'd be pissed.

catclaw · #5 (**permalink**) 09-23-2009, 12:20 AM

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Originally Posted by AniC.

^Thank you!! Yes I think I'll just have to have courage and take care of this. It IS a problem,even if she is nice.

it does suck especially if she's nice in every other way :/ hopefully she'll be mature enough to realize she's doing something wrong and it won't cause any bad blood between you two.

AniC. · #6 (**permalink**) 09-23-2009, 12:24 AM

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Originally Posted by WongGeGe

There are 2 approaches to this, but as a guy, i don't know if a girl would get the same response.

1. say "**** no, i studied my *** off to do good on this"

2. "you better give me something in return."

as you get older and go to college, you realize that cheating is not something you should kill yourself (or someone over) because most of the stuff you learn you will not use in life....unless it is, then i'd be pissed.

1.Haha thanks!! Though with sort of girl if I DID curse,it'd start some sort of clique war.

Number 2'd be nice if I still could tolerate this, but I especially couldn't today because my dad was JUST telling me yesterday how important school was and I actually worked on the review!! 0.0

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Originally Posted by catclaw

it does suck especially if she's nice in every other way :/ hopefully she'll be mature enough to realize she's doing something wrong and it won't cause any bad blood between you two.

I hope so too.

WongGeGe · #7 (**permalink**) 09-23-2009, 05:20 AM

Keep us updated!

littleleah · #8 (**permalink**) 09-23-2009, 09:55 AM

I say let her down nicely. Tell her you arent comfortable with helping her cheat. Give her that really lame phrase about how shes only cheating herself when cheating on tests lol. Let her know that you are there for her for anything else like if she needs help learning the material or needs a study partner, etc.

AniC. · #9 (**permalink**) 09-23-2009, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by WongGeGe

Keep us updated!

Kay,I will!! She wasn't in school today though so I couldn't say anything.

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Originally Posted by littleleah

I say let her down nicely. Tell her you arent comfortable with helping her cheat. Give her that really lame phrase about how shes only cheating herself when cheating on tests lol. Let her know that you are there for her for anything else like if she needs help learning the material or needs a study partner, etc.

Oh gosh THANK YOU!!! That definitely sounds like something I could do!!!

Asuka_X · #10 (**permalink**) 10-07-2009, 02:27 AM

It's your fault that she keeps asking to cheat off of you because you let her cheat the first time, and the time after that ,and so.

You should have told her NO from the beginning.
Tell her the truth.
Tell her you feel uncomfortable about helping her cheat.

I really dislike people who cheat, especially off me.
You do you part,study hard, and all they do is mooch off you knowledge.
It will catch up to her eventually.
She can't rely on others for the rest of her life when it comes to learning new material.

AniC. · #11 (**permalink**) 10-10-2009, 03:06 AM

^Thank you.

So here's an UPDATE:
Well lately I've sort of started this tactic, of acting like I'm stupid. Not extremely dumb, and actually I don't even think it's act,I'm not so good at math anyway. But yeah, it's sort of working because she doesn't ask me for help anymore!!!

You know what really sort of annoyed me? She has a friend in the class who gets 90s and 100s. But she chooses to ask ME!!

Like I'm willing to take the risk of failing a major test or something just for her sake!! If she wants ask SOMEONE for help,she should ask her own friends.

sakura.day · #12 (**permalink**) 10-24-2009, 06:12 PM

This reminds me a couple of years back when my group of friends sat together when we had to take our math exam, my friends would ask me for answers, but I just ignore them because seriously why should I share my grade with you, while I'm doing everything? Just tell her how you feel that it's not fair that she's cheating off you or tell her you don't take any responsibilities if she does bad because of you, actually i think you should just give her the wrong answers that way she'll know that you really don't like when she's cheating off from you.

Jessi-chan · #13 (**permalink**) 10-24-2009, 09:13 PM

I'd give her a wrong answer, personally.

People tried cheating off of me in Elementary School, and Middle School. It hasn't happened yet in High school, but I think it has to do with my classes and lack of seating plan.

When they try and copy answers, I make sure to write realy realy tiny, so it can't be read over my shoulder. That, or If we're working on a coupled project together, and my partner just wants me to do it all, I'll give them all the wrong answers and hand mine in seperately. I don't hold it against anyone specifically, but I refuse to be taken advantage of like that. I'm always complaining if someone is mooching grades off of me.

It doesn't always work though, in Foods and Nutirtion class, I was forced to work with three guys, and the teacher would take marks off if I complained, so I sucked it up for the whole semister, and I was still the only one to walk away with an A, because they didn't know anything because they never did the work themselves. Even though in the end, one guy wised up and got me to help him study, he still didn't get an A, close, though.

Good luck, keep us posted!

StrawberryShortcake · #14 (**permalink**) 10-24-2009, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by catclaw

well if you want it to stop you'll have to be firm. tell her no. change seats. do something, obviously ignoring her is not getting the hint across.

That is really good advice. Especially changing seats. But any of those ideas would really let her know that you aren't going to "help" her anymore.

@Jessi-chan: That's great! That's what I would personally do. I've even thought of doing that in the past (no one has cheated off of me really).