Getting to know a stranger?

[Jessi-chan]

Alright, I'll try and make this a long story short, but let's be honest, I'm horrible at that.

Alright, I'm in Highschool now, and I before that, there was a guy I liked, and I thought he liked me, too. But then, the first time we converse with each other since Middle School, and he's a total jerk! Maybe it's because I've never talked to him when his friends were around, but by the time him and his friends left, he dumped on the game system I was playing, the game I was playing and got strawberry milk in my hair, even when his friends weren't paying attention to me! Anyone who knows me knows that I hold a grudge, he knows it, too, but he still took the time to trash everything I was doing. I was quite hurt by it all.

So I've tried to move on, detach myself from him in every way. We don't have any classes together, so it's pretty easy, but I still avoid some classes he comes out of when I walk by, and I don't make eye contact with him anymore. I think he's taken the hints, because when I looked up once, he wasn't making eye contact with me like he used too.

Now there is another guy I think I might like. He hangs out with a group that is semi-attached to the group of upper-classmen I hang out with. Anyways, he always seems to be where I'm looking. Seriously, I'm not making this up. I'll be going up stairs, and he'll cut me off. I'll be heading for a doorway, and he'll come through it. I turn away from my locker, he's walking to his. I'm over ninety percent sure he doesn't know I excist, but it must seem like I'm stalking him, I swear. Before, I was content to let it slide, let him think whatever he wants or not notice me, but now it's getting to the point where I'm making a concious effort to avoid him.

It happened after an afternoon class one day. Earlier my friend had made a comment about hating walking up stairs, because your face is always in someones butt, and someone is always in your butt. Well, he came out of the foods room when I was walking from Drafting and headed towards the stairs, where I needed to be. We have lockers across the hall, so I know WHY he was going up the stairs, but I was so embarrassed I just kept walking and ended up going to French class Ill-prepared. I'm afraid this is going to get out of hand, so I'm changing my approach.

If I can't avoid him, I'm going to have to get to know him. Does anyone know how to get to know a stranger? When I said he kinda knew my group of upper-classmen friends, I really mean kinda. Like, he hangs out with a guy that hangs out with us only when noone else is around. It's very detached. I'm very nervous when I'm near him, to the point where I'll curse loudly and avert my gaze, as well as change whereever I'm going. So I obviously need either good tips for ignoring, or good tips for getting to know someone.

[sakura.day]

Ahh, it's simple, there's no way to avoid/ignore him since I mean you always see him and I kind of sense that you have slight interest in him, so I say the next time you see him, just try to say "hey..so you know [inserts name of the upperclassman that hangs out with your group]?" and just start out like that and try talking to him from time to time when you see him at the lockers .

[Wonderwall]

"Hi, my name is _____. How are you?"

[chacha]

Originally Posted by Wonderwall

"Hi, my name is _____. How are you?"

Lol.
How would YOU REALLY REACT if a girl went up to you and said that?

"o_0" I believe. XD

[Jessi-chan]

Thanks guys.

Sakura.Day - I did just that, but not directly. I talked to the friend of his that hangs out in my group of upper-classmen. Apparently, we have absolutely no common interests.

Wonderwall - I wish I had the courage to do that, but to be honest, unless we had a class in common or something, I don't think it'd work at all. >.<

[Wonderwall]

Originally Posted by chacha

Lol.
How would YOU REALLY REACT if a girl went up to you and said that?

"o_0" I believe. XD

I wouldn't think much of it because I talk to strangers all the time. Tone and body language is key.

Originally Posted by Jessi-chan

Thanks guys.

Sakura.Day - I did just that, but not directly. I talked to the friend of his that hangs out in my group of upper-classmen. Apparently, we have absolutely no common interests.

Wonderwall - I wish I had the courage to do that, but to be honest, unless we had a class in common or something, I don't think it'd work at all. >.<

If you really liked him, you'd find out if you had things in common yourself. How would you perceive someone that went around asking about you instead of going to you?

[JunGaeHyuk]

maybe instead of trying to avoid him when you see him, you should acknowledge his presence. just smile, nod or wave when you see him. i highly doubt that he would feel like you are "stalking" him if you are just going about your daily activities. sounds like you have some preconceived notions about how you think he perceives you/ your behaivior. i'm sure there are other people you don't know that you run into constantly during the day, but you don't notice them because you're not focused on them.

try to view him the same way you view every other person around you.
myeh...i know its probably a lot easier said than done when you are feeling self-concious. :3

[AniC.]

Haha that's a good question Jessi-chan!! ^w^

I'm sorry about your first crush. I was hurt a lot by a guy I liked for almost 3 years so I believe I understand.

Actually I JUST (like literally JUST) started liking this one guy. I never really noticed him before. Except last week, I didn't change for a gym class and he didn't either. We walked together to the bleachers and we talked a lot.
I didn't think too much about it except that he was a nice person(who smelled REALLY goodxD).And I realized he's also in my s.s. class.
But all of a sudden, it's really hard to talk to him(and I'm getting that stupid "heart-wrenching" feeling>.<) and that sucks because I'd like to learn more about him.I get so many chances too!! I sit next to him in gym when we have to sit down,and we do a lot of group work in class. He works alone so I've been debating on whether or not I should invite him to work with me.

What I'm doing right now is almost like a wildlife study....I wrote one on him,the info I gathered.0.0 Gosh,I'm such a weirdo. I really want to at least make it to the friends stage with him.

Anyway,I guess in your case, you should try to converse with him whenever you see him. Maybe stay at your locker a bit longer and wait for him to come and strike up a conversation. About anything!!! I'm such a nerd!! I talked to the guy above^ about gummi bear vitamins!!!>.<
Also, if he's always coming out of nowhere, be careful what you say. Try to refrain from saying anything that'll embarass you.
I'm sorry,I'm probably not very helpful especially since with this sort of thing, it's even harder to actually do it than type it in. But just be yourself and do your best. ^^;;<----ugh that sounds so dumb.