Dealing with being turned down

WongGeGe · #1 (**permalink**) 11-03-2009, 03:21 AM

How do you deal with being turned down by someone you are close to?

...do you try to improve yourself to "win their heart"?

...do you move on?

...do you stay friends, but secretly stay hopelessly in love?

chacha · #2 (**permalink**) 11-03-2009, 03:33 AM

I make that face that the girl does in your picture.

colourfulbubbles · #3 (**permalink**) 11-03-2009, 03:49 AM

^ haha. that's a cute face.

It depends on the situation really. I haven't been turned down when I actually wanted a relationship.. but I don't like rejection either. Knowing me I'd probably move on.

Clarity · #4 (**permalink**) 11-03-2009, 07:21 AM

Well, I haven't actually been in that situation exactly. The only person i've been truly close to just happened to love me in return, so.. :] That worked out perfect.

But if I switched that situation around and pretend I DID get turned down by him.. Woah D: Cyclone of emotions.

As much as i'd want to say I wouldn't change for anyone.. You know, I probably would try to. Not necessarily to get him, but to prove to him how much I care in more ways than I showed before. I don't think i'd move on fast unless I realized the friendship was more valuable than a possible relationship, and was sure he didn't want that. I'd be secretly heartbroken, though. x.x
And i'd probably tell him that. But not to make him feel guilty. If I go as far as telling him how I felt about him, i'd want him to know everything i'm feeling afterwards and he's the type who'd want to know.

But no matter what would've happened, I still believe that happiness is the most important, so i'd eventually move on and always stay happy that he's happy with how things are (:

Wonderwall · #5 (**permalink**) 11-04-2009, 01:32 AM

Women (and men) are not to be won over. You either want to be together or you don't.

In the future, don't get close to someone in the hopes of changing your relationship (from being a friend to being a lover). State your intentions from the get go and save yourself heartache and wasted time.

aFineFrenzy · #6 (**permalink**) 11-16-2009, 12:59 AM

Never been rejected b/c I've never liked anyone so much but uh I would just brush it off and get on my feet and get hotter lmao

WongGeGe · #7 (**permalink**) 11-16-2009, 03:13 AM

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Never been rejected b/c I've never liked anyone so much but uh I would just brush it off and get on my feet and get hotter lmao

F*CK YEH! i realized this is the best mindset.