Is it good to...?

the123girl · #1 (**permalink**) 01-30-2007, 09:59 PM

I really like this kid named Jason. Hes a freshman (I'm a sophomore) and hes on my bus and my lunch. He sits in the table in front of me. And I have the biggest crush on him like ever. So I might actually admit some feelings to him, but is it too weird to do that...? I Dunno. Hes so adorable -dies- hes asian. xD god, he's so cute. Um, anyway. I wrote a note saying his name on the front and inside I wrote: I really like you. If you want to talk to me online, IM me at Lolaerz@aol.com

Is that a little too weird? And I was like... going to give him the note walking of the bus going onto my bus stop. Now I just dont know if I should like have one of my friends go up to him in lunch and say something like "My friend Katie really likes you." But he sits at a table with like a whole bunch of his friends and stuff.

~dies~

Francis11 · #2 (**permalink**) 01-30-2007, 11:58 PM

I think that before you tell him you like him you should start talking to him and get to know him a little.
i know that when you like someone it's hard to be patient but trust me when i say it's so much better to get to know someone as a friend first, that way you know if you're compatible and stuff so yeah just get to know him, that's what i'd say.

pinkhaireddreamboy · #3 (**permalink**) 01-31-2007, 01:03 AM

i think you should try to become friends with him first and get to know him better.. hmm, but you still need a way to break the ice. to be less forward, maybe you should do some snooping to find out his myspace/screen name and start casually talking to him online. say like "hey, you ride my bus dont you?" and see where it takes you, but dont tell him that you really like him or think he's cute right away because he might think its creepy.

kawaiiangel · #4 (**permalink**) 01-31-2007, 01:07 AM

yeh i totally agree with pinkhairdeddreamboy and Francis11. there's nothing more corny than ur mate going up to a guy saying "my friend likes you". it'll be embarrassing for him and for you. so yeh, just try and get to know him casually

the123girl · #5 (**permalink**) 01-31-2007, 09:04 PM

HAHAHA. xD Well I screwed that up. Too late.

Oh well. He's still cute anyway.

Francis11 · #6 (**permalink**) 02-10-2007, 03:15 AM

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Originally Posted by xDestin

HAHAHA. xD Well I screwed that up. Too late.

Oh well. He's still cute anyway.

so what happened?

katzluva · #7 (**permalink**) 02-10-2007, 03:39 AM

Why do you like him? Dont just tell me cause he's goodlooking... '___';

So, I agree with the rest. You gotta find a way to communicate with him. Do it very casually and subtle...the more subtle, the better. Maybe when you're waiting with him at the bus stop, ask him where he got his ___ and that you think it's very nice, and you would like to get ___ for your brother's birthday (a compliment AND an initiative!).

Eeeek, telling your friend to tell him that you like him is a definet no-go. It's just too...err, childish? It's like, even if he knew that you like him, is he supposed to just walk right up to you and say, "Hey! I heard you have a crush on me! Let's get to know each other!" (-_-??)

Osakagrl · #8 (**permalink**) 02-10-2007, 04:22 AM

this has nothing to do with this thread but it kinda involves age. is it wrong for a 17 year old to go out with a 23 year old?

PS-- i wouldn NOT sleep with this person if we were together....just thought id clear that up~

katzluva · #9 (**permalink**) 02-10-2007, 04:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Osakagrl

this has nothing to do with this thread but it kinda involves age. is it wrong for a 17 year old to go out with a 23 year old?

PS-- i wouldn NOT sleep with this person if we were together....just thought id clear that up~

Six years is a rather large gap for a 17 year old. I think it's not good to go with someone that much older because 1. Older men usually expects more sexual activity...so you might be pressured into it even if it's against your will 2. Cohort effect, that is, his views/interests could interfer from yours because he aged at a different time 3. General disapproval from others (family, friends) and that's just not a good feeling.

Francis11 · #10 (**permalink**) 02-18-2007, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Osakagrl

this has nothing to do with this thread but it kinda involves age. is it wrong for a 17 year old to go out with a 23 year old?

PS-- i wouldn NOT sleep with this person if we were together....just thought id clear that up~

not that this might necessarily matter but which one of you is seventeen and which one is twenty-three?

MrsFinny · #11 (**permalink**) 02-19-2007, 01:13 AM

Well, my friend who is a sophomore dated a freshman, and it did not go too well. He ended up telling all of his buddies that they slept together, which they didnt. I'm not sure if that was because of him being immature because of his age or because he was just a total jerk...

JPanda · #12 (**permalink**) 02-19-2007, 01:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Osakagrl

this has nothing to do with this thread but it kinda involves age. is it wrong for a 17 year old to go out with a 23 year old?

PS-- i wouldn NOT sleep with this person if we were together....just thought id clear that up~

My sister is 6 years younger than her boyfriend and they've been together for over a year. However, they didn't start going out until she was 18. I think it would be a little bit risky for a 23 year old to get involved with a minor.

xBishieLuvrx · #13 (**permalink**) 02-19-2007, 02:27 AM

you should get ot know him better, cause he could turn out to be super immature. my friend dated an 8th grader back when we were freshmen and it was horrible. everytime something happened, the guy would say "yea? well i'm dateing a HIGHSCHOOLER!" and immature things like asking her to walk to his house when she's @ the (really far) mall with her friends. but it might be different between you two.

Osakagrl · #14 (**permalink**) 02-19-2007, 07:28 PM

im the one who is 17 and he is 23 ^^;; yeah, I agree about the 18 thing. its just so frusturating when you like someone SO MUCH and its totally taboo to be with them ya know? I dont know its just hes the first guy ina VERY LONG TIME whos freaking hot yet i can be myself with and not watch my p's and q's and worry about what i look like. ><;; hes just so sweet and considerate, and he always makes me laugh and be happy no matter how down i am. I dont really see what the big deal is once i turn 18...i mean its only like 6 years....its not like hes 30...i dont know HELP ME !

Can you guys help me out with this to? :

I want to know if it sounds like he likes me or not. We talk every day whether it be phone, IM, or e-mail. and this is while he works 50 hours a week or more. he doesnt even get home till midnight from work but he always e-mails me. he bought me chocolates for valentines day and he even asked me if he would go to his church with him. he calls me pretty and cute without trying to be obvious about it. and when i said i would cook italian food for him (my families italian) he was so excited and happy. I have never had a BF cuz i am just so damn picky so I have no idea how to read guys ^^;;

PS-- I dont know if it makes a diff, but hes Japanese and from Tokyo~ He just got here in the USA two years ago...in Japan age differences like this is NOT a big deal....so I dont know....wtf that had to do with anything XD

Osakagrl · #15 (**permalink**) 02-19-2007, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by MrsFinny

Well, my friend who is a sophomore dated a freshman, and it did not go too well. He ended up telling all of his buddies that they slept together, which they didnt. I'm not sure if that was because of him being immature because of his age or because he was just a total jerk...

prime example why i hate HS guys and i like only guys in their 20's

kawaiiangel · #16 (**permalink**) 02-19-2007, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Osakagrl

prime example why i hate HS guys and i like only guys in their 20's

guys and girls (no matter what age they are) can be immature as well. my brother for example is 32, and has the mental age of a 10 year old. i wouldnt base maturity on age, but rather their attitude and outlook on things.

Osakagrl · #17 (**permalink**) 02-20-2007, 01:55 AM

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Originally Posted by kawaiiangel

guys and girls (no matter what age they are) can be immature as well. my brother for example is 32, and has the mental age of a 10 year old. i wouldnt base maturity on age, but rather their attitude and outlook on things.

thats true...its just the HS guys I HAVE PERSONALLY MET are immature, it drives me crazy. i shouldnt have said all....just the guys in my area :\

Cailey · #18 (**permalink**) 02-21-2007, 08:46 PM

also you should really watch out for older guys because they can be huge creepos...
i used to be really into dating older guys because i thought i was so mature and blahblahblah but really its like... why can't they date anyone their own age? why are they going after girls that are so young?
a lot of the time its because they're immature.
this obviously isn't the case with all of them but its just something to think about ....

Osakagrl · #19 (**permalink**) 02-21-2007, 10:30 PM

Well I dont know if it makes any diff, but he just got here in the USA 2 years ago, his english isnt perfect. I am one of the only white girls in his entire life that speaks Japanese at all, and he actually detests Japanese girls. He thinks they can be annoying. (im not complaining XD) I also think you should know that I carry myself in a very mature way. Im not a whore or anything its just that I act very mature for my age.

UPDATE:

it was sooo cute! monday I went to his work (which is a japanese restraunt where he is a sushi chef) and i had like 15 dollars on me so i thought i would drop in for something small. the minute i sat down I said "what do you recommend?" he said, "dont worry about it, I am taking care of you today!"

and so he started making all diff kinds of japanese food! from miso to sushi to fish and mochi etc etc. I was so scared though because everything he gave me was so so so expensive cuz he works at a really high end place. it all equalled up to about 60 bucks...(remember i only had 15) and so frankly i was freaked out. but then when i asked for the bill, and he replied, "nope! I am buying Ashley's lunch today!" I was so happy, i mean what a sweet thing to do. I know that the age thing is sorta taboo but i like him to much, i really just want to see what happens and if he wants to date me...well hell im going to go for it!

Is what he did a sign that he likes me maybe? I am boy illiterate

katzluva · #20 (**permalink**) 02-22-2007, 01:28 AM

Osakagrl....you seriously can't tell if he is interested in you??

Dude, he contacts you everyday, cook you meals eagerly, got you chocolate for V-day, and had indirectly told you that you are above Japanese women.

OF COURSE HE LIKES YOU