My chubby Bf!

[katzluva]

My bf is getting pretty fat, lol. No seriously though, he gained an astonishing 80 pounds since we met...and he continues to eat like theres no tommorrow. I talked to him about being overweight, and suggested that he go exercise with me and such, but he refuses and would still drive himself to fast food places for a 1500 calorie lunch O_o

I've been trying to cook him healthy foods, but he himself is not making an effort to lose weight. I know I cant force him to be healthier...but I wish he could get a reality check. He's 40 pounds overweight as I speak.

Any suggestions?

[katrina]

oh wow...80 pounds is a lot to gain.... :/

my bf gained/lost/gained/lost some weight since we got together, i think it's normal for people to gain weight when they get into a relationship? cuz like you probably go out to eat together a lot, etc.

you should really tell him that for his HEALTH, he should stop eating junk/fast food!! maybe help him get a gym membership and/or work out together? it's easier if you have a partner to motivate you..

and like, instead of going out to eat for lunch, maybe pack a lunch? cuz it's really easy to just pack a sandwich, juice, & fruit if you're going somewhere.......my bf & i used to go out to eat a lot after classm (not fast food, but still) & we realized that it was just a LOT of money to spend and that it would probably just make us gain weight.

and yeah, hmm, when you guys go out to eat together, instead of going for pizza or something go somewhere more healthy! and i guess, try to lead by example. hopefully if he sees you eating healthy he'll feel guilty and start doing it too, haha

good luck o___o

[doriixdoraa]

Gosh... I was just starting to have that problem with my ex. It's very concerning... but he ended up realizing on his own that he needs to exercise more and that he's been gaining a lot more weight than he had thought. I kept telling him that he should start noticing his weight...but he also would refuse to exercise with me when I'd try to suggested it.

It was pretty frustrating... then I gave up.

But I agree with a lot that Katrina was saying.

Maybe find a nutrionalist around your area to talk to. Bring him in for a meeting. I'm sure that they'll give you guys a lot of facts about health that you didn't know. Maybe that would scare him into eating healthier and exercising...? That's what did it for me. XD

Anyway, good luck!

[katrina]

oh! i had another thought. there could be emotional reasons behind why he's eating too much? like, he could be depressed, or taking too many classes or work or something could be stressing him out, thus he overeats?

[Tranceformer]

or you could buy him a really NICE pair of pants that are to small for him, and that you'd love it if he could wear them to what ever, your birthday party anything important. then he might. Then he might become enthusiastic about losing weight so he can wear those pants for you to please you.. well i dont know, just a suggestion. : D well goodluck! Hopefully he'll come through.

[katzluva]

Originally Posted by katrina

oh! i had another thought. there could be emotional reasons behind why he's eating too much? like, he could be depressed, or taking too many classes or work or something could be stressing him out, thus he overeats?

Haha...exactly, no, hes as happy as ever. He always ate that much...its just that as we all age, our metabolism goes slow. In his case, MUCH slower.

or you could buy him a really NICE pair of pants that are to small for him, and that you'd love it if he could wear them to what ever, your birthday party anything important. then he might. Then he might become enthusiastic about losing weight so he can wear those pants for you to please you.. well i dont know, just a suggestion. : D well goodluck! Hopefully he'll come through.

Sounds like a plan! ^_^; I believe I will test this out for his birthay..hehe.

Thanks for all yall suggestion, it helped!

[Tranceformer]

yay heh heh. When's his birthday?

[Cailey]

i definitely tried buying something too small for me once thinking that i'd be motivated to lose weight so icould fit into it properly... that didn't work out.

[xBishieLuvrx]

i say you guys join a gym together!
or do something active together once a week or something.
[eating less junky food is good too ^_^]

better yet, find out what's bothering him or what's causing the weight gain.
80 pounds can seriously damage your body.

[BrokenWings]

I agree with xBishieLuvrx, but be blunt with him. I think perhaps the harsher you are, he'll soon realize how serious his weight problem is. If you're serious enough about this, then he'll take it into consideration.

[katzluva]

Well recently, he just moved into my apartment with me and we're sharing my room. This gives me the opportunity to remind him how fat he is everyday (hahaha...in a nice, joking kinda way!)

After ridiculing his waistline on many occasions, he got the message. For two weeks now, he's been eating salad and sandwiches. Wow. I hope he can keep up with his diet >_<~

[katrina]

Originally Posted by katzluva

Well recently, he just moved into my apartment with me and we're sharing my room. This gives me the opportunity to remind him how fat he is everyday (hahaha...in a nice, joking kinda way!)

After ridiculing his waistline on many occasions, he got the message. For two weeks now, he's been eating salad and sandwiches. Wow. I hope he can keep up with his diet >_<~

well that's good! progress haha

[xBishieLuvrx]

oh wow, he sounds like a great guy, being willing to do all that just for you! you both are very lucky to have each other :]

[minniemeggie]

ack im on the other end of this, i gained a ton of weight sense me and my bf got together i went from being 90 lbs (dont freak out! im only 4'8" so thats normal for my height) but anyway i got to 130, my boyfriend finally stoped taking me out to eat and for awhile i was ignoring it, because he still thought i was sexy, but then i got an ulcer... =[ now all i get is salad.. which is nice... but everyday it gets old. my boyfriend doesnt say im fat or anything (probably because im not) but he knows im not being healthy, so everytime I go to get a pizza he talks about the grease building up in my body blocking my heart from getting blood.

[katzluva]

It seems like men gain a lot of weight after getting into a happy relationship. Which makes sense...because, when you're happy, you eat more right?

Well the situation with him, he hardly made any improvements. He started eating more healthy foods, such as deli sandwiches but the problem is that he eats in HUGE proportions. For example, one slice of pizza will do for me, but for him, he needs to eat 2/3 of the box in order to be "full."

Not much I can do now...its really up to him to get that reality check. No one can really FORCE you to lose weight, its a personal concious decision. Perhaps one day when he gets a heart stroke... :!:

[meganxxrawr]

Originally Posted by minniemeggie

ack im on the other end of this, i gained a ton of weight sense me and my bf got together i went from being 90 lbs (dont freak out! im only 4'8" so thats normal for my height) but anyway i got to 130, my boyfriend finally stoped taking me out to eat and for awhile i was ignoring it, because he still thought i was sexy, but then i got an ulcer... =[ now all i get is salad.. which is nice... but everyday it gets old. my boyfriend doesnt say im fat or anything (probably because im not) but he knows im not being healthy, so everytime I go to get a pizza he talks about the grease building up in my body blocking my heart from getting blood.

awhh. i hope for the best for you <3

[strawberryshortkait]

Originally Posted by minniemeggie

ack im on the other end of this, i gained a ton of weight sense me and my bf got together i went from being 90 lbs (dont freak out! im only 4'8" so thats normal for my height) but anyway i got to 130, my boyfriend finally stoped taking me out to eat and for awhile i was ignoring it, because he still thought i was sexy, but then i got an ulcer... =[ now all i get is salad.. which is nice... but everyday it gets old. my boyfriend doesnt say im fat or anything (probably because im not) but he knows im not being healthy, so everytime I go to get a pizza he talks about the grease building up in my body blocking my heart from getting blood.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to EAT HEALTHY. Eat all of your regular meals, and make sure you get enough of everything in your daily intake because that will actually help you loose weight faster. My sister lost 20 pouds that way, and still going! same with my mom.

Now I have the opposite problem of you! I'm 5'2" and weigh 76-84 pounds!! My matbolism is ridiculously hight, and I actually eat like a PIG and healthy =X. I probably eat more then my entire family combined in one day. I just can't seem to gain weight haha!

My sister & my mom have this really good site that they use.. I'll see if I can get the url from them =)

[ohJOY]

Definitely talk about how much you're concerned for his HEALTH... not even esthetic reasons at this point. Another thing to think about though, they say that women gain an average of 8 pounds after they get married. Some people feel that they've found "the one" so it really shouldn't matter how they look and they just let go of themselves. Meh... maybe he's comfortable.

[katzluva]

Originally Posted by ohJOY

Definitely talk about how much you're concerned for his HEALTH... not even esthetic reasons at this point. Another thing to think about though, they say that women gain an average of 8 pounds after they get married. Some people feel that they've found "the one" so it really shouldn't matter how they look and they just let go of themselves. Meh... maybe he's comfortable.

Heh Heh..trust me, I've warned him about all the hazards of being overweight and having high blood pressure(I'm hoping to become a Physician Assistant one day, afterall). What can I say, he doesn't care! A lot of people call him fat too but it doesnt move him to make changes. Eh..I'm just gonna have to "deal" with his unhealthy lifestyle.

As for myself, I lost 5lbs this summer! Wee!