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[EmilyTheStrange]

...I feel bad...I've just realise my boyfriend is about to spend about £25 on things for me! Clothes and stuffs...Any one think of any ways i can make some quick money?
I'm already owe him about £20-£30 from the last time he was back from uni as he took me out for dinner and bought a take away 3 times, bought other thnigs i needed and drove me about everywhere and i didn't even give him any petol money And now that'll be another £25 on top!
He was saying he was thinking of getting me something because i got him two new shirts and a pair of jeans yesterday and a t-shirt last week but i got them really cheap in a charity shop and from a carboot sale. He does know that but still wanted to get me something...

So yeh, what should i do? Should i just let him get me the stuff and pay him back as soon as i can...Or should i try stop the transaction...?
I don't want to make him feel bad by making him think i don't want him buying things but if his family knew how much he spends on me they'd think i'm just with him for his money when i'm really not. (His family have money, which i didn't know until we'd been going for for a few months, and he's been really good with his student loan and only buys things as and when he needs them, mainly food and thats it...)

Advice would be great...

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[mallorymaloney]

Just enjoy the gifts! He shouldn't expect anything in return, and you shouldn't expect to give him anything in return --- They should be considered gifts, not types of payment, haha. xD; Just like he shouldn't expect to have to get you something, just because you bought him a few things. =P

But seriously, just enjoy it ... I wish my boyfriend would buy me things, lol.

[EmilyTheStrange]

I know...But i just feel so bad. I've been borrowing money off of him for things and i hardly ever get him things and when i do i never really spend much...I might just give him somethnig i've got towards his xmas presents and find something else for xmas(Yeh, i started shopping very early as he is very hard to shop for and when i found this thing when it was on offer i just HAD to get it for him...lol)

*sighs* I guess the clothes and things are really cute though so...

I can't stop him now any way as it seems he's paid...I'll just have to see if i can find some more cheap bits for him and post it all out to him soon if i can get some money/a job.

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[JPanda]

I never ask my boyfriend for anything, and ometimes I feel guilty when my he spoils me too, because I can't afford to spoil him as much in return. He says he doesn't mind -- he says he does because he wants to.

But then again, giving doesn't really have to have any kind of monetary value. Instead of worrying about spending money on him, spend more time with him instead. How much would it cost to go out on a picnic together? Walk through the park? Take pictures together?

If he insists on taking you out to a pricey restaurant, why don't you two stay in and cook instead? Or next time there's a gift-giving occasion, how about you two MAKE each other gifts instead of buying them? Just get creative. There are plenty of other ways to "give" to someone you love without having to put a price tag on everything.

[EmilyTheStrange]

To spend more time together it'd cost at least £60 and 2 days traveling(one day there and then a day back) Which sucks...So it has to fit in around uni holidays...

I've cooked for him quite a few times. I would cook for him more but my stupid family get in the way as they never go out any where. I do plan to steel my sister's house the next time her and her boyfriend go away and Eddie's back...Mainly because my sister has a really good kitchen! He doesn't really do cooking. I know he could as he has helped me before...He just never does unles its putting a pizza or something in the oven. The good thing is though he doesn't take me to really pricey places when we go out so that makes things a little better and also i guess i did take him out to dinner for most of the summer last year so...

I'd love to make him something but its so hard thinking of things to make guys...I might steel a friends idea and paint him a canvas though as he was saying he'd like things to put on his walls as they're really plain at uni and i know they will be in his flast next year too. I'm not sure he's really a making things kinda guy but...He did say he'll build my website for me over the summer so that'll do for his making something...

I found out how much he spent and what he's bought me...He spent £25 and had got me:
A Soundgirl Hoodie (Should cost about £20 - £30 alone i believe?)
A really cute DIY Top
A Hello Kitty Ring<3
Heidi seeker coin purse
Hello Kitty bag
And 3 Kid Pirate Tops

There were two AJ tops for sale too but i decided i know i wouldn't wear the style so i didn't tell him i liked those...Which i'm glad about...

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[quephuong]

Your boyfriend got you Hello Kitty? OMG! None of the guys I know would have the sense to get a girl that type of stuff!

[Heartburnz]

u have a sweet bf.. =)
stop worrying.. and if u feel awkward about the situation just tell him about it..
that u feel kinda sad about it.. lol.
my bf feels the same like u cause i always want to buy him stuff.. and he just say to me that he feels bad about it blablablalba.. but i just say i dont care cuz all i need from him is his (true) love for me and only me.. and thats enough..

i think ur bf would think the same, and i think ur also a good gf so dont worry 2 much

[xBishieLuvrx]

repay him back with something that's not bought with money!
like, maybe take him out for a picnic or something that wont cost a lot, but would mean a lot for your relationship. maybe go to the beach? or just watch a movie and then go walk around and do something spontaneous and risqué :] i think doing that (the spontaneous and risqué thing) would mean a lot more than just clothes and money ^___^