Recent Break up

Mysticalxkitty · #1 (**permalink**) 05-27-2006, 05:11 AM

Ok.
So me and my ex had been together for 2 1/2 years but it never felt it.
It had been a long distance realtionship, but i find they work on occasions when both people work hard to keep up conversation and adore each other.
But because he is always busy he hardly talks to me. I mean we hadnt talked for 3,4 months i got fed up with.
One of my best guy friends is just as busy,maybe more, and he still finds time to e-mail me regularly.
My ex says he loves me and he cares but he gets angrily easily and gives up. he has his small moments when he can be sweet but...
I just got fed up.
Was this a right thing to do, or should i give him another chance?

katrina · #2 (**permalink**) 05-27-2006, 08:18 AM

sounds like letting him go was right

katzluva · #3 (**permalink**) 05-27-2006, 08:40 AM

I'd say it was best to let go. Long distance relationships are just too complicated...especially when he doesn't make much of an effort to talk to you. It could work out if strong trust and communication is present.

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trashy*pearls · #4 (**permalink**) 05-27-2006, 02:48 PM

Aw I'm sorry sweetie, but it does sound like it was the right thing to do. I hope everything turns out okay for you!

felinius · #5 (**permalink**) 05-27-2006, 09:09 PM

Yeah... going for 3 - 4 months without talking?? I commend you for your patience on that part. It was good that you broke up with him, cuzz I'd be really suspicious of what he was doing those months he wasn't talking to me...

Menelli · #6 (**permalink**) 06-01-2006, 10:37 PM

Breaking up was definitely the right thing to do. If he really cared about you that much, he'd find the time to at least call you, geez. I'm amazed you put it up with it for that long. =O

doriixdoraa · #7 (**permalink**) 06-01-2006, 10:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Menelli

Breaking up was definitely the right thing to do. If he really cared about you that much, he'd find the time to at least call you, geez. I'm amazed you put it up with it for that long. =O

I know... I wouldn't have been able to...>_<

so I agree... it was the right thing to do. There's more people out there...

Long distance relationships are hard. I'm sorry it didn't work out.

If he loved you as much as he seemed to be saying, he would have made a better effort to keep in contact with you.

Mysticalxkitty · #8 (**permalink**) 06-04-2006, 07:53 PM

thanks guys.
:] i really needed this kind of advice.

londonfran · #9 (**permalink**) 06-06-2006, 09:13 AM

I think you made the right decision ... how can you go for 4 months without talking??? wow.

16thfloorelevator · #10 (**permalink**) 06-18-2006, 11:18 AM

Yes, long-distance relationships are complicated, and I believe they can work with. . . effort.
When my boyfriend's away, I yell at him for not e-mailing me at least once a week. :/

I say, along with everyone else, that you made a good choice.

So dun sweat it. ;D

xBishieLuvrx · #11 (**permalink**) 07-06-2006, 04:46 AM

don't look back on this!
i support your decision 100%!
don't ever re-think this out. it's over and you go and live your life :]

quephuong · #12 (**permalink**) 07-04-2007, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Mysticalxkitty

Ok.
So me and my ex had been together for 2 1/2 years but it never felt it.
It had been a long distance realtionship, but i find they work on occasions when both people work hard to keep up conversation and adore each other.
But because he is always busy he hardly talks to me. I mean we hadnt talked for 3,4 months i got fed up with.
One of my best guy friends is just as busy,maybe more, and he still finds time to e-mail me regularly.
My ex says he loves me and he cares but he gets angrily easily and gives up. he has his small moments when he can be sweet but...
I just got fed up.
Was this a right thing to do, or should i give him another chance?

Yep, sounds like the right thing to do. That's what I would've done, at least. I mean, 3-4 months without talking?

tsaefen · #13 (**permalink**) 07-04-2007, 02:49 PM

Yes, I agree with everyone else. Breaking up was the right thing. Although it may be hard now, I'm sure you will find another sweet guy. :]

d3stiny__* · #14 (**permalink**) 07-04-2007, 04:10 PM

you made the right decision! 3-4 months without talking is just way to long.. Don't worry you will find someone else better then him

JPanda · #15 (**permalink**) 07-04-2007, 06:36 PM

No talking to each other for 3 or 4 months? I'm currently in a long-distance relationship, and we HAVE TO talk to each other at least 3 or 4 times a day. So getting cut off for 3 or 4 months would be torture for either one of us.

How did you go for that long without talking? Did YOU try getting in contact with him during that time? Did he ignore you? Did you just wait for him to get back in contact with YOU? It has to be a mutual effort.

lidomink · #16 (**permalink**) 07-04-2007, 10:31 PM

no it sounds right. you can get mad at him for that because your boyfriend should have at least some times talking to you on the phone. since its a long distance relationship even if its for a moment only. he could have at least done that for you!

Heartburnz · #17 (**permalink**) 07-07-2007, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by katrina

sounds like letting him go was right

I agree =)