Perfect age to lose your virginity...

[HappyNobuko]

Originally Posted by yugidogz

As mentioned, I lost mine at 16, so I was a junior in high school. I thought it was hilarious though, since me and my boyfriend were in the same class during 7th period, so we'd look at each other and just try not to laugh.

Sucks though when people start spreading rumors and crap. Or they just try to jump in on all the "dirt", and spread it like wild fire. There's another reason you'd probably want to save it until after high school. College is when most people lose it, right? Or is it high school... I'm not sure... but it seems like people are a lot more mature when it comes to sex in college. In high school.... everyone's still a nosy little kid. >>;

Did you ever tell your friends?
I feel one thing is, if I lost my virignity during high school, I wouldn't be able to tell my friends. Because they start saying certain things, and my teachers would have a huge deal over it.
So I wouldn't be able to face going to school and just keeping it to my self. Yet id be in fear of telling any body.

[yugidogz]

Originally Posted by laura-aap

humans and animals are different on one part:
Animals have sex to reproduce, the existance of the species.
Humans have sex for fun, good feeling and all.

Except for dolphins! Funny little creatures.

@Nyappy: I told one of my friends because she was having problems with her boyfriend and the subject of sex. That was a BAD IDEA. Since me and my boyfriend had stopped coming to school for a while due to school-related retaliation-problem-crap...stuff.... yeah, she started up rumors about us, so as soon as I got back, my friends hit me with them which was really annoying and I just felt that it was absolutely none of their business! Ugh.

I'd just be aware of who you tell if you ever do. Apparently you don't always know who your real friends are. =/

[cool]

Originally Posted by yugidogz

Except for dolphins! Funny little creatures.

@Nyappy: I told one of my friends because she was having problems with her boyfriend and the subject of sex. That was a BAD IDEA. Since me and my boyfriend had stopped coming to school for a while due to school-related retaliation-problem-crap...stuff.... yeah, she started up rumors about us, so as soon as I got back, my friends hit me with them which was really annoying and I just felt that it was absolutely none of their business! Ugh.

I'd just be aware of who you tell if you ever do. Apparently you don't always know who your real friends are. =/

All these crap will go away when we as a society accept sex as a normal human process... when we continue to make it a taboo subject that's when we cause unnecessary stress on society which needs to continue the lie...

Even though scientific research have shown over and over again that when full sex education was offered, there were far, far less unwanted pregnancies than when the Christian-Ingore-The-Truth Abstinence only sex education is offered, the Faithful still insist that sex is evil and we'll just have to 'not talk about it'... hush hush.. Like Ahmed-Nezhad proclaims that there are no 'gay' people in Iran... continues to live in fairy land..

[Antonia-chan]

Is it really such a big thing in your countries? I was surprised while reading this thread since there were so many different stories and opinions about when to have sex.
Here in Sweden (OK, I shall not say whole Sweden, but almost) the sex-thing is taken pretty... well, in a funny way. It's something that might happen anywhere and anytime, the age doesn't count either. Well, my mother wouldn't be too happy if I had lost it when I was under 15 (that's the legal age for having sex in Sweden) but she wouldn't have been angry with me if I had been with my boyfriend at that time as long as it was serious.
IMO I think that losing your virginity either should be in a relationship where both of you are serious, or to someone you trust 100% and making it a little of "a fun thing"

[cool]

Originally Posted by Antonia-chan

Is it really such a big thing in your countries? I was surprised while reading this thread since there were so many different stories and opinions about when to have sex.
Here in Sweden (OK, I shall not say whole Sweden, but almost) the sex-thing is taken pretty... well, in a funny way. It's something that might happen anywhere and anytime, the age doesn't count either. Well, my mother wouldn't be too happy if I had lost it when I was under 15 (that's the legal age for having sex in Sweden) but she wouldn't have been angry with me if I had been with my boyfriend at that time as long as it was serious.
IMO I think that losing your virginity either should be in a relationship where both of you are serious, or to someone you trust 100% and making it a little of "a fun thing"

The world should learn from the MOST liberal country in the world... your country, the nederlands...!!

[Dutchie]

^ well I wouldn't say that the Netherlands are the most liberal country in the world, we say we are, but in fact, we arn't (well that is my opinion) I also feel already a subtle change in how liberal we actually are and it makes me scared.
A few weeks back there was a women on TV and she also said it, in the past you really could do almost everything here, and you could talk about everything, but it really changes. The netherlands isn't that open about everything. They even want to close the number one thing most people know the Netherlands about de Wallen/ red light district (well not everything but a big part because to many 'big' criminals earn money there) .. I think the politicans (what is the word??) are totally scared of not taken serious by other country's who might see the Netherlands as a fun country where they go to try drugs and stuf like that..
well enough about that
back to the topic,
I think you should loose your virginity at an age you feel comfertable about it. And when you really want it, for some it might be when they are 13 (altough I really think it's to young, but people should be able to make their own choices) and for some it may be when they are 25, but I think you should just do it when you're totally in love with the other person and trust him/her..

[yugidogz]

Ugh, I told my friend last night online... it's just like I said before. You really can't talk to your friends about these kinds of things. Her reaction:

"@______@"

o_o

[Tsuyako]

I agree with people who say you have to be careful who you tell =/ I have a friend and when she told someone, practically the whole school knew by the next day

[yugidogz]

^ Ughhh! Exactly!

My friend must've told people, since one time another friend came up to me and told me that there rumors that "you and [your boyfriend] were 'banging'" O_O ...And I think at least 5 other people were standing right there when he said that... u__u;

I'm SO glad I'm out of high school! @__@;

[laura-aap]

Originally Posted by cool

The world should learn from the MOST liberal country in the world... your country, the nederlands...!!

I wish we could keep that up... but holland is changing.. and fast.
our governant became totally christian. so everything that made holland holland has gone.. or is going to be changed.

like the wallen in amsterdam. they are mostly gone.
they want sextoerism and drugstoerism to be gone.
stupid moves... since all those girls will be going outside.. and out of view. more bad things will happen.

they are just keeping the bad things out of the news.

I never really found sex that important. my mum teached me everything about it since I was 6. mostly under dinnertime. XD
so yeah.. it's quit normal for me.

[cool]

Originally Posted by laura-aap

I wish we could keep that up... but holland is changing.. and fast.
our governant became totally christian. so everything that made holland holland has gone.. or is going to be changed.

like the wallen in amsterdam. they are mostly gone.
they want sextoerism and drugstoerism to be gone.
stupid moves... since all those girls will be going outside.. and out of view. more bad things will happen.

they are just keeping the bad things out of the news.

I never really found sex that important. my mum teached me everything about it since I was 6. mostly under dinnertime. XD
so yeah.. it's quit normal for me.

Wow... I didn't know that Holland is being taken over by the Christian Cult... Dang! Bad times to come for sure..

People don't realize this, but Religion / Government uses 'SEX' as ONE of the tools to control people. If you can make ppl feel guilty and sinful for being who they are, then you can manipulate them to do anything. (sex is a powerful tool because 99% of all ppl have uncontrollable feelings about sex)

And you're right of course. If you shut off or pretend not to 'know' that things are happening, you're only going to make them go underground and you will lose control. That's when really bad things happen, like STDs will pass on unnoticed, crimes will prop up everywhere, and then the Religious Sanctimonious people will then say, 'see I told you sex is bad for you'... when in fact they created the whole problem themselves...

Just like Bush took office, and he invaded Iraq, hung Saddam, evil as he was, he was doing a better job than the US in keeping the Al Qaeda off of Iraq. ANd now, when things goes to hell and Al Qaeda grows ever stronger, Bush will now say, 'see I told you Al Qaeda was a problem'... It's a downward spiral.

Religion is a cult that creates a downward spiral of society until it eventually hits rock bottom and then ppl are ruled by fascists (who uses religion well to control it's people and keeping them ignorant).

[.em.]

Originally Posted by Jequila

I'm waiting till I'm married. -is lame- xD
I just really like the thought of giving my husband something that no one else has ever had. Even though it will most likely be awkward for the first time ;p

haha, it most likely will be awkward, I think. I haven't had sex yet myself (though I really want to! My boyfriend and I are both ready for it, there's just things to take care of, like going to the doctor and stuff, 'cuz I want us to be really safe and not get pregnant), but I think the first time will probably be really awkward because we will both be nervous (my boyfriend and I are both virgins, though, we aren't totally innocent ), but it'll be funny at the same time and and cute, funny memory to look back on. Like, "remember the first time we had sex, and we were both so nervous? that was so funny, but it was nice too, lol."

He's so wonderful, I can't wait for it! ^___^ I think we are going to wait till we live together though, because it'll be a lot easier for us, not having to worry about parents or time restrictions. I do wish we could just 'do it' it though, lol. Oh well, waiting will be worth it.

I think a person should wait until they feel that they are totally ready for it. I won't say a certain age, because people will be ready at different times, but I do think that being a bit older helps, because you might be a bit more knowledgeable and responsible by then.

I hate how this (and other) countries make sex out to be a dirty, bad thing. I think its really fun and beautiful.

Thanks for making this topic, its nice to have somewhere to talk about sex without having to worry about who's listening.

ps-Interesting thing about the dolphins. They are pretty neat creatures, and are a lot like us, it seems (they are really smart, have sex for fun, etc).

Originally Posted by MsKittyFntstico8

Heyy.
I'm 16 now going to be 17 in August and lost mine when i was 14 to the boy i'm still dating. It's been over two years now. We turned out to be soulmates, which i think we sensed from the beginning. I didn't do anything intimate really until about 4-5 months after dating him i think. But i know i'll be with him forever it just turned out we started dating and realized we were perfect for each other. We never argue, i love everything about him, he loves everything about me. He tells me how beautiful and amazing i am everyday and i tell him how cute and perfect he is also. Trust me, you'll know when you find the right guy. I was a little young i guess but i definatly knew he was the one. Good luck ;]

aww, how cute! Congrats, I hope you guys stay together forever.

[xivorymoonx]

Wow my thread has really struck up some arguments =P
mm...it seems it's gone from age to lose your virginity to uh...men cheating? I'm not really sure, I didn't have the patience to read all of those posts =_=
But let's try to make a new conversation or argument that relates to both.

Question:
Say you kept your virginity until you felt you were ready (whatever that age may be) and the person you really loved and cared for was....a total dud T.T He/she didn't turn you on at all! What would you do?
-Suck it up! TOugh through it.
-Regret it...deeply. Should've picked a better age >.<
-Cheat on them!!! You love them, but you need your pleasures =)

Haha.
Other options are welcome.
Like for me, I'd try to train the guy to be better

But does a situation like this ever puzzle any virgins out there? Does this make you feel like you should've wait for someone you love?

[.em.]

^I would try my best to make it work. Sex of course isn't the most important thing, but it does play a huge role in relationships. I would want it, so I would want us to try our best to work it out. There are so many ways to be sexually intimate with someone, chances are one of them is bound to work.

[Shibuya]

Originally Posted by cool

With global warming, I guess I can say right now, the skeptics like yourself are in the minority, so it would not be a weird opinion of mine. It would have been a 'weird opinion' of yours. Anyways, I won't discuss that here as we had a thread that discusses that. I would be happy to answer questions on this though if you want to start another thread on it... and we can have a jolly debate there as well...

As for 'Men do cheat', which you say you don't agree with which confuses me.. you don't agree that men cheats, or that you think it's not ok for men to cheat?

Remember, I am not advocating that men cheats.. I am merely stating that men do cheat.. there's a difference....

The latter is a matter of data (and in surveys after surveys, men generally say that they cheat).

As for the former, ie, the moral question, I leave here without my own judgement. I leave that up to every person to decide.



I have to totally, strongly disagree with this. I am highly creative and Art is my passion. Science is my passion too. And most of my 'scientific minded' friends are all very creative. In fact, I would argue that if you're not creative, you can't do science very well...

I believe that creative people are just people who can see more perspective and if they put their mind to it, they can do anything extremely well, whether art or science. All the greatest scientists are also artists... Leonardo Da Vinci for instance, Einstein for instance... etc..

And an 'Art major' does not automatically mean they are creative.. Creative people are hard to come by actually simply because our education system is geared towards training our left brain.... HOpefully today, more and more our school will teach more the creative side of our brain..

LOL, this is funny, it's a post on virginity and I see global warming, something I know about!!!
actually it's found that while we contribute to global warming we dont cause all of it. Barely. It has this whole thing to do with the earth's plates on the larva center of the Earth, and there is one part on the globe where these plates pull apart, leaking smoke and whatnot into the air.

On the topic of virginity, I'm a firm believer of if your ready and it's okay with you theres no problem. I'm 18, I've only ever had one relationship, I'm just not keen on relationships. My first boyfriend I never really liked. And the couple of others who tried to ask me out were shut down (I'm not rude lol, I just didn't like them). I think I would be ready when I was going out with someone and trusted them heaps. And of course knew that they weren't trying to pressure me for it!!

[Shibuya]

Well now reading through the rest of it its a really interesting subject, unfortunantly in most societies it's kind of taboo.

I personally think sex is a beautiful thing, it's usually between two people who love each other. (I'm using words like usually and what not in hopes that I do not spark an argument, so I'm sorry if you are offended in anyway)
I have never had sex, but that is just me, anyone is free to have it when they want, considering it has been consented by both parties involved.

And to whoever said it (I can't find your post to quote it) that waiting till marriage is lame, dont feel lame! I would hate for you to feel that you should comprimise your personal beliefs.

I think losing your virginity is okay when you believe it is. You know, not so you are pressured into it, not when you are drunk or whatever, but when you feel emotionally and physically ready for it.

[SuperJoyFultime]

I think being around 18 is about right.

[yonanah]

im 1 day away from being 19, and to be honest I'm still climbing trees and running amock and the LAST thing on my damn mind is sex. I dont know how it is that kids nowadays are so itty bitty and talk about the things they talk about- sex. They are so dirty (to me) and probably more experienced and better informed on the subject than I am.
Sex is for those who are ready and with the right person. You have to have faith and trust because sex is a very sacred thing.
I wouldnt do it, unless I was married to the person and I knew we were financially stable. Thats just that. I'm not a christian so my sense of marriage is probably different from the rest here, but still i would like a legal marriage (for financial purposes as well).

[Kanako]

This question always gets interesting answers.

My mum is very 'don't do it until you get married' view. But I know a lot of people who has lost their virginity.
I believe it's when people think they are ready. I think a good age is 18 year old. But then again, I found out a few days ago, a girls I know lost it when she was 12..o_O;;;

[Shibuya]

Originally Posted by Kanako

This question always gets interesting answers.

My mum is very 'don't do it until you get married' view. But I know a lot of people who has lost their virginity.
I believe it's when people think they are ready. I think a good age is 18 year old. But then again, I found out a few days ago, a girls I know lost it when she was 12..o_O;;;

12 is far too young. I mean, she would have been a child!