Perfect age to lose your virginity... - Page 7

yugidogz · #**121** (**permalink**) 04-02-2008, 04:45 AM

I agree, 12 is way to young! I don't think you can be emotionally ready to make such a drastic move at such a young age.

bellytuner · #**122** (**permalink**) 04-02-2008, 08:12 AM

The perfect time to lose your virginity has nothing to do with age. The perfect time to lose your virginity is when you know what you're getting into and you want to have sex. I think knowing what you're getting into is soooo important. I had a friend who was 15, got pregnant and I saw her life collapsing in front of my eyes. She so naive about sex - she told me they didn't use the condom and relied fully on the withdrawal method. If she knew withdrawing was very risky, she probably wouldn't have gotten pregnant. She chose to keep the child but little did she know bringing up a child is harder than she thought. She regretted it, and ultimately, that's what everyone tries to avoid - regretting.

Know everything you need to know about sex (std, protection, how you get pregnant, easiest time to get pregnant etc etc etc) , then you're ready for sex.

bellytuner · #**123** (**permalink**) 04-02-2008, 08:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Jequila

I'm waiting till I'm married. -is lame- xD
I just really like the thought of giving my husband something that no one else has ever had. Even though it will most likely be awkward for the first time ;p

That's NOT lame! If you think that's the perfect time for you, then OK! No one should pressure you into having sex. No one. When you're ready, you're ready. Period.

cool · #**124** (**permalink**) 04-02-2008, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by bellytuner

The perfect time to lose your virginity has nothing to do with age. The perfect time to lose your virginity is when you know what you're getting into and you want to have sex. I think knowing what you're getting into is soooo important. I had a friend who was 15, got pregnant and I saw her life collapsing in front of my eyes. She so naive about sex - she told me they didn't use the condom and relied fully on the withdrawal method. If she knew withdrawing was very risky, she probably wouldn't have gotten pregnant. She chose to keep the child but little did she know bringing up a child is harder than she thought. She regretted it, and ultimately, that's what everyone tries to avoid - regretting.

Know everything you need to know about sex (std, protection, how you get pregnant, easiest time to get pregnant etc etc etc) , then you're ready for sex.

YUP! And let's blame our education system for not getting us ready sooner!! yay yay! for sex education using 3d-technology. YOu don't want to miss anything, now, do you?

Beertje · #**125** (**permalink**) 04-02-2008, 05:27 PM

you're ready when you're 100% sure you're ready. haha

There is no 'perfect age' ._. but i do think that girls who're 11/12 years begin to have sex, it's kind of freaky, because mostly girls don't have a feminine figure at that age..

Shibuya · #**126** (**permalink**) 04-03-2008, 05:48 AM

^not only that but I think at 11/12 they dont really UNDERSTAND what sex is

they do not understand love at that age either, they are children

asashi · #**127** (**permalink**) 04-07-2008, 01:20 AM

The perfect time has nothing to do with age. It is when you truly love your partner and your partner truly loves you. You both are ready for this extra commitment and all the responsbilities that may arise from anything that may happen. May that be pregnancy, disease, and/or parents disagreeing with what you are doing. You both are comfortable to talk to each other about it and know what to expect from one another. You discussed problems that may arise and what you will do if it happens. And most importantly, you, yourself feel that you are ready and your partner feels the same.

I lost my virginity when I was 18. I didn't understand any of this stuff, and it was mostly lust. I don't regret it because I knew what to do next time. I have talked with my current boyfriend about this coutnless times. The first time we did it, it was a little awkward, but we did love each other. From then on, we did it because of love, not lust.

billies_lova · #**128** (**permalink**) 04-07-2008, 01:27 AM

I'm going with what south park said on the matter, "17" And as Chef said even if your not ready "17"

Or maybe it was 18, idk. I'm pretty sure it was 17. Idk don't ask me I honestly am on another planet.

yugidogz · #**129** (**permalink**) 04-07-2008, 08:34 AM

Oh man... last night was great. I slept over at my friend's with 2 others all from my workplace, and got into the discussion of sex.

I was really relieved when I told them I wasn't a virgin, since they were more like "No way!! Really?!" but in a good way since they always saw me as so quiet and innocent at work.

One among us is still a virgin, but we're all cool about it. I'm so happy they are so open-minded, unlike some of the other girls I mentioned who acted like I committed a sin or spread rumors around to the wrong people >>;

Girls at work = REAL friends. ♥

cool · #**130** (**permalink**) 04-07-2008, 10:27 AM

Good for you yugi...

TkyoLvli012 · #**131** (**permalink**) 04-08-2008, 01:02 AM

well I am still a virgin..I'm not super super religious but it is important to me obviously. I think you should wait until you're married or atleast in a very very long term relationship. theres so many guys that will just use you and throw you away like any other girl, but if you're with a guy for years and years then I think it will be more special, and if it is your husband it will be special. ^^

One thing that helps me keep myself from just being like the rest of the girls around me is I like being able to say something most of them can't anymore, plus being black people assume me to be some kind of slut..and they probably think so anyways but I dont want to further any nasty sterotypes.

tokyoboxx · #**132** (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 01:07 AM

when you're married (:
or if you love that person truly and deeply
and can see yourself spending the rest
of your lives with them :D

hrwait · #**133** (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 03:59 AM

The only rule my mother ever had for my sister and I was, "Wait until you're at least 18, so that if you get pregnant you're at least out of high school." :P

My sister didn't listen and lost hers at 15. I waited, but I lost mine when I was 19 and not to someone I loved or planned to stay with. However I still didn't feel it was a mistake, because I just had that feeling as though, "it was an okay time for me".

I think everyone should follow a few simple rules when deciding about virginity. First, if it's your religion to wait, then wait. If you don't, you may regret it very deeply later.

Secondly, at LEAST wait until you can deal with a surprise pregnancy if it does happen. Anyone under 18 should not, because even if you are not ready to have a child at 18, you certainly won't be while in school. Education should be out of the way first.

And third, do it when you are really, truly ready to experience the things that comes with being active. There can be many heartaches because of intercourse. And children *do* result, even sometimes when you are perfectly safe.

StrawberryShortcake · #**134** (**permalink**) 04-21-2008, 04:06 AM

I don't think there is a perfect age. To me you should lose it once you are married.

kayj · #**135** (**permalink**) 09-15-2008, 05:57 AM

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Originally Posted by trashy*pearls

I think you can lose it whenever you feel ready, really. But it is up to you. Don't be pressured into something you are uncomfortable with, be safe, use protection. You know the rules :P

I lost mine when I was 15 and have been having pretty regular sex since then. And I'm not diseased :P

Sex is wonderful, trust me. It's not as taboo as people want it to be.

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.:SD ♥ss · #**136** (**permalink**) 09-16-2008, 04:23 PM

15 or 16 in my opinion... hormones high, usually want sex so much, think about it and the opposite sex so much, and... your parts.. are well... ready lol... Plus you will be more mature.

iksuna3 · #**137** (**permalink**) 09-17-2008, 03:24 AM

I think the age is not important... you only have to feel ready and sure with the person you're going to lose it..

I lost mine at 17 with my actual boyfriend, and he's 6 years older than me, he was not virgin, and I wasn't worried about that.

Melissa Veldhuis · #**138** (**permalink**) 09-24-2008, 01:17 AM

@ Cool : Ok. So what you are saying is no matter the guy, he is going to cheat on you because he can't fight nature? He can't just have sex with his wife or partner because it's his nature?
He can control it! And if he can't he is on his own!
I'm sorry but some people need morals.
I'm not saying you do this and don,t have any
but guys who think they can f*** someone else when they are in a relationship are going to lose everything
A girl isn't going to stcik around forever and let you hurt her
Some girls do... but eventually
they leave ...

But to answer the thread ...
when your ready
not like oh he is hot or she is hot
i want to do it lets do it
but when you know what could happen
when your prepared for what could happen
honestly though ...
it just happens
a lot of people sat they planned for it
it just happened for me

Cinnamarolll · #**139** (**permalink**) 09-26-2008, 12:02 AM

I think 16 and below is too young. All the emotions and stress attached to sex are too much for someone of this age to deal with.

I lost mine just this year, simply because I wanted to wait until I knew the person I was with loved me. And I'm glad I did. It was so wonderful and intimate. I think a lot of people rush into sex because they feel as though it will somehow bring them closer. But I know a lot of girls who end up losing it to some guy who was simply out to "score". I just think it's something that should be thought about A LOT before taking action. Like my mom always told me, if the guy/girl really cares about you, they'll wait on you.

artisanden · #**140** (**permalink**) 10-02-2008, 12:57 AM

Hmmm it is personal but i guess people need to ask yes?

I lost mine at a very young age, 14 or so I think. Its no problem for me as I am quite well travelled and well experienced. So it is not much a big issue to me.

It varies with everyone. I suggest waiting it out, look at the long run