Perfect age to lose your virginity... - Page 8

#**141** (**permalink**) 10-02-2008, 02:27 AM

16 is a good age. my husband and i are 16 and we have made love like 4 times. and every single time we make love it is out of love not for the feeling. when you do it with your lover try to find a comfortable place to do it instead of a movie theater, stair cases at a hotel or the beach (its great doing it at the beach, but its better when there isnt tons of people there) making out on the beach is just as good too. and even if you have had sex, it doesnt automatically mean you lost your virginity, scientifically yes, but basically no. a virginity is something you give to someone intenstionally, just keep that in mind. and some people think making oral love to someone means losing your virginity, and im sure by now you have noticed i dont use the term sex very often, thats cause i think if you are having sex out of love then you should say "making love" the meaning is in the term. i hate it when my husband sometimes says sex, to me if you say "we had sex" it makes it sound like you did it for the feeling of it. thats just my opinion though. and try not to get addicted, alot of people i know do. i try really really hard not to get my husband and i addicted. we do it every 2 weeks, and we are in a long distance marriage, we have been for a year and 6 months ^-^ .

its ok to have sex as long as you are deeply in love with your lover, i promise if you do it when you are deeply and truly in love the experience will be really really passionate. i hope i answered your question, if not you can always message me ^-^ .

Kanzaki · #**142** (**permalink**) 10-04-2008, 01:42 AM

Is there such a thing?

To me it's about readiness. And sex, to me, is not such a big deal. When I came to the point, wondering "Should I do it or not?" I just did it. I hate the guy know, but honestly, I think many of those women who are 40+ something regret their first time too. I lost mine 4 years ago; when I was 16.

zaidababy · #**143** (**permalink**) 10-04-2008, 03:37 AM

Most teenagers aren't ready for sex, but who is that going to stop? There really isn't a perfect age, it's when you're ready and you don't feel pressured. Play safe kids, grab a condom.

.:SD ♥ss · #**144** (**permalink**) 10-05-2008, 03:06 PM

Some teenagers, around my age needed it... They would become sexually frustrated like mad. Plus it's pretty much the only thing we teens think of.

kurisu · #**145** (**permalink**) 10-30-2008, 06:52 AM

Hmm.. I think 16 is okay for an age, but you can't get in trouble when you're 18.

Ah, I don't mean to do any drive-by posting, but I noticed that a lot of the previous posts have already said what I would want to say, thus I do not want to be redundant.

Sex is a natural thing and every has their own image of how sex should happen and when it should happen.

... I lost mine when I was 15, although my boyfriend was a few months younger than me, lol. We're actually still together, and we've been dating for about 6 years now. I don't regret it, but I know a lot of people who do. :/

Accidents happen, but just know that whatever happens, HAPPENS. It can be regretful, so for those of you who are virgins - keep in mind that you should be ready for all consequences if you do partake in intercourse.

darkangel4911 · #**146** (**permalink**) 10-30-2008, 08:20 AM

by the way, i like your picture. it's by foureyes on deviant art, right?

maybe i'm old fashioned, but i'd like to wait until i'm married. i've heard way too many stories about high school/college babies-i know this one guy who has gotten two girls pregnant in less than one summer, and he found out about it one month ago. only the second girl decided to keep hers, but get this- he didn't even know either their last names!

kurisu · #**147** (**permalink**) 10-30-2008, 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by darkangel4911

he didn't even know either their last names

lol okay I know I shouldn't be laughing, but the way you typed it kind of made it funny. ^^;;

xivorymoonx · #**148** (**permalink**) 11-08-2008, 01:18 PM

Yeah, I definetly think that along with the readiness and all, you should also be concerned about who you're going to do it with. You have to make sure you can trust them, and that they'll be careful, and that you tell them your last name right before the event happens.

jthizzle · #**149** (**permalink**) 11-25-2008, 12:15 AM

i lost mine about two weeks after my 15th birthday o_o
i don't regret it one bit hahah.

i never thought it would've happened to me cause i was always like, "yeah i'm going to try and wait till marriage blah blah blah" but it happened.. and i'm happy that it did

i'm 17 now and still with the same guy, so eh

BooScaryFrog · #**150** (**permalink**) 11-26-2008, 02:42 PM

I don't think there is a set age for something like that, it depends 100% on the person. Honestly, I lost mine when I was 17, and even though I had been ready for some time - I was not ready at THAT time. I wont go into details, but it wasn't the person or the atmospher, it was more about the timing and what was going no in my life. It cause drama and blahblah, but I'm actually with the same guy and I love him more than anything. I wish we had waited a bit longer, but once I had a good experience with him, I felt like it wasn't so bad. but anyway my point is that age isn't the only thing that factors into the whole being ready thing. -

Azn_Grl_Kimmiii · #**151** (**permalink**) 11-26-2008, 08:01 PM

I know it sounds reasonable when people say that "Age doesn't matter, it just matters whether or not you're ready for sex." But age does matter. It affects how you think and act, your emotions, and all that other stuff that makes is teenagers so difficult to deal with.

I'm 17 and I've never had sex and I don't plan on it until I'm older 9not necessarily till married... but older). I don't feel ready, or actually, even interested in sex right now. With so many other things going on in my teenaged life, I don't even have time to keep up with a relationship, let alone the responsibility of sex. =P

I just don't like the fact that society made it so that so many people think there's something wrong with them if they've never had sex. I go to a Magnet school, which is supposed to be for really smart people. But thruthfully, most of the kids just want to have sex and party and be cool. They feel that if they don't get laid by a certain age, it makes them feel like a loser. Does that sound that fun??!!

I personally know someone who was 13 when she started dating an older guy... about 17. He got to know her family and friends and got her to really trust him. He ended up getting her virginity and got her pregnant! Later, after he stuck through for the abortion, he cheated on her with his ex girlfriend.

So no, I don't think dating an older guy is a good idea. Most Teenage guys just want to have sex and they're not afraid of hurting you in the process. why give them the satisfaction?

catclaw · #**152** (**permalink**) 12-03-2008, 01:19 AM

no "perfect age" exists. obviously something like thirteen sounds wrong, but it's impossible to put a standard out there.

i don't care when someone has sex as long as they're personally ready and not being pressured and they use protection and are educated about their choices.

Briace · #**153** (**permalink**) 12-03-2008, 03:20 AM

I agree everyone said, but we all know when we get marrige our wife or husbend must be mind whether we are virginity, it is fact thing, I think we should lose our virginity when we meet the real lover. everyone say never mind virginity but everyone mind in their heart,http://www.aypearl.com

Dustin · #**154** (**permalink**) 12-04-2008, 08:08 AM

I would have to say 40 is the perfect age to lose it.

just kidding.

18-20

BonBonBarbie · #**155** (**permalink**) 12-04-2008, 09:22 AM

i agree with what everyone says, its when your emotionally ready.
and it is so much better when its with the person you love. mine was, and im so happy it was with him because he made it nice for me.
also, make sure its with someone you trust and feel comfortable around. sex is amazing but so many embarressing things happen. you need to be with someone who you can laugh about it with, not who you feel embarressed around

redpixie · #**156** (**permalink**) 12-04-2008, 12:16 PM

Agreed. Mine was with someone amazing, and I'll never regret it. Just makes it hard now with someone else....

pinkybre · #**157** (**permalink**) 09-29-2009, 03:10 AM

I would say between the ages of 18-25!
Your not too young or too old!
I think it's important to wait becaue I never want to regret it!

Buster · #**158** (**permalink**) 09-30-2009, 07:36 AM

age > 23

did you watch news yesterday? Singaporeans are getting married well over 30 now! if use 30 as a benchmark and we count back 7 years of courtship, it will be 23 yrs old. anything below 23 is a risk but at the end of the day, it is YOUR CHOICE

hello kt! · #**159** (**permalink**) 09-30-2009, 04:06 PM

I'm 14, I haven't lost my virginity & don't plan to yet.
I know lots of people my age that have, & after the first time, see it's as a goal to reach with someone.
one of my friends has been with 3 guys, each within one week of meeting them & she is also 14 o.o
I'm not judgemental over them losing it, it's just that their atitude towards it is just wrong.

Asuka_X · #**160** (**permalink**) 10-07-2009, 02:22 AM

This is THE dumbest poll I've seen!!
There does not exist a PERFECT age to loose your virginity.
There are certain parameters of age that would make it more acceptable for a first timer, example Between 16-28years old for first incidence of sexual intercourse.
Also, many people believe you are still a virgin as long as you haven't been penetrated.
If you've done everything except penetration you're pretty much no longer a virgin no matter how intact your hymen is.