I'm starting to hate my best friend

[marie]

I have this best friend for four years, let's call her Jessica.

Lately, she is annoying me so much. She is turning out to be the exact type of girl I hate.
The kind that is very, very vain, only cares about boys [seriously, she is entertaining 4 boys all at once, not including her bf], cheats all the time and is willing to make me go against my morals [I do not approve of cheating and people copying off me] just so she can pass, and constantly talks about d*cks and how people look like them. She was not like this before.

When I talk to her about her wrongdoings she'll tell me, "Why can't you be supportive?" WTF?

My other best friend [also her best friend] thinks that she is very annoying and is not talking to her that much.

I'm realllly starting to hate her. I'm just forcing myself not to because I don't want to waste our 4 years of friendship. But I'm very annoyed when I hang out with her.

Example of our typical conversation:
Jessica: *talks about her bf and other guys who's courting her for a long time and doesn't let me talk*
Me: *tells a story about other stuff*
Jessica: *text messaging. not caring about what I say*
*puts on powder and sprays perfume even though she knows I'm allergic to those*
*asks if she's pretty enough, if her skin looks gross*
Me: Sure. *walks away annoyed*

Arghh, I don't know what I should do. If I hang out with her any longer I think I'll just develop more hatred for her.

Help?

[phren]

i think you' re just growing apart.. there's not alot you can do

you can try talking to her about it, but chances are this is her personality so she's not going to change it.

eh yeah sorry i think you should really just avoid talking to her so much if she's annoying you. xP

[Heartburnz]

just tell her how you feel and if she cant understand it..
then well, you can break the friendship as best friends..
cause this is going nowhere..

i also had a best friend like that (she's now even worser)
but i didnt made contact anymore.. and now were like.. sort of friends..
rarely talk to her and never hang with her anymore..
she also has a bf but flirts with other boys and wants all the attention of the world.. she goes out often en get drunk alot.. i dont know she fcuked up herself..but if she like that lifestyle.. good for her.

....keep that in the back of your mind.

[katzluva]

She's going a little overboard with the boys and hormones, it might just be a phase you know? But I can definetly understand what you're talking about. I had a cousin that went a little psycho with men during her late-adolescent and early teen years...constantly dressing inappropriately to grab their attention and going on and on and on about who's hot. I avoided her for like 5 years, and just recently she's become more mature with her thoughts and conversation, and even so, things have been awkward.

Might be time to split apart. Sad to say, most best friends are not forever.

[MerryHappy]

i would just let her get on with it and walk away for good shes not much of a friend if shes being like "me me me" all the time i had a friend like that and i feel tons better for just walking away from the situation

[marie]

Yes, that was exactly how my other best friend sees her, an attention seeker.

Well today, I didn't eat lunch with her. I didn't accompany her to the cafeteria either. But I don't think she noticed it, she was with her ex-boyfriend who she always rants to me about. But I found out yesterday that she French kissed him just recently.

I guess you people are right. We're just growing apart. But if I stop hanging out with her, I'd have no one to hang out in my class. I'm not close to anyone of them, I was in a different section for 2 years.

Marie, decide what do you want. Get annoyed and have someone to hang out with or be alone and peaceful?

[Heartburnz]

try to make some contact with other people in your class.. you don't have to be best friends or something.. just to hang out at school or something.
maybe you'll find find out their nice..

but yea, its always better to be alone then being with someone who's really annoying and only talks about herself..

[arukab]

i have the same problem!
my best friend won't grow up, she's still very childish (we're in highschool now)

and even my other best friend (who's her best friend too) thinks so too.

for example, she'll act like a baby when she doesn't get what she wants.
but we're trying to work things out =/