Is it okay to talk?

[Nitsue-chan]

*Thanks for moving the thread, the_zorya =]*

Okay guys, sooo...Me and my bf of 2 years just broke up yesterday. =_=
Remember my last thread? "Is it impossible?" Well, me and my bf both decided it was best to just be friends since the whole long distance thing wasn't working out...He hardly ever called be cuz he was busy with school and we were both not happy like that.
We broke up friendly...He even said that things didn't have to change and that maybe in the future we could work it out.
So..um..it's been pretty hard for me these past hours but my cousin that went through this whole long distance relationship/breakup helped me alot.
She told me not to talk to him cuz it'll make it worse for me to forget him. The thing is I don't think I can just ignore him like that when hes online in msn.
I mean...he's been one of my best friends these last 2 years...I told him everything! So its kinda hard to just stop talking to him.
What do you guys think? Should I talk casually with him? Just like friends? or just completely ignore him.

I don't want him back or anything. Right now thats just impossible but...okay. Technically what I'm saying is; Is is okay to be friends with your ex? o.O
ugh...I'm sorry for my long post...I'm just confused right now. This is clearly my first breakup so I don't really know what to do...

*sigh*

[forsheezy]

It doesn't work always, but I say continue to be friends with him. Don't flat out ignore him, because that just makes it really bad. After all, you broke up because of distance, not because you hated each other's guts.

Why, I'm pretty good friends with my ex (dated 1 yr 5 months) now. I'll be honest, at first it got really awkward at times, but I still consider him to be one of my best guy friends. After all, we both care about each other deeply despite not being in a relationship anymore. This was my first break up too, and I can tell you that in a long FIRST relationship like that, it's hard to just "forget" your first love.

[yeppuyeo]

I don't really have experience with this, but I think that since you said your relationship ended on an okay note and was a mutual agreement it's fine for you to be friends still (: And you said you don't want him back so it's not like an act of... desperation trying to get him to go out with you again, you know? And if things just don't work out (being friends, I mean) then that's okay too~

I hope everything works out well for you

[suzushii]

I think you should first take a bit of time alone, and not talk to him. Maybe a week, or two. Just don't talk, or try to think of him. Do fun things with your friends, go out.

Then, after you've gotten used to it, go back to talking with him. Like friends.